Actually, I think OR is showing remarkable patience in a persistent staying with the point against some rather uncharitable comments made against him.
You, however, have fallen victim to the common weakness of buttressing your point by being selective in your texts, and totally ignoring context. Why not go back to the earlier verses of Ephesians 1?
Because then you would have to deal with predestination in v.11 that comes before any of the aspects of salvation you have brought up. And then you would have to try to explain away the plain meaning of v.4 of being chosen before the foundation of the world.
Holding to Reformed Theology, I can tell you that there is nothing in verses 13,14 that speak against a calvinistic viewpoint. Quoting those verses repeatedly simply is advertising to the world that you just don't understand RT and so you, like so many others on this forum are arguing against what you THINK RT is, not what it is. Shame.
Of course we 'trust" after we 'hear'. But you are only going back half-ways. You claim the trust is from within thus giving man the glory, and we say it comes as a gift from God, thus giving all glory to God - ALONE!
Faith is a gift in that without God's word, we would not have knowledge of God and Jesus. But the faith to believe is ours, and there is abundant scripture to prove that.
Matt 9:22 But Jesus turned him about, and when he saw her, he said, Daughter, be of good comfort;
thy faith hath made thee whole. And the woman was made whole from that hour.
Matt 15:28 Then Jesus answered and said unto her,
O woman, great is thy faith: be it unto thee even as thou wilt. And her daughter was made whole from that very hour.
Why would this woman's faith be remarkable to the Lord if the Lord himself gave it to her?
Mark 2:5 When Jesus saw
their faith, he said unto the sick of the palsy, Son, thy sins be forgiven thee.
Luke 7:9 When Jesus heard these things,
he marvelled at him, and turned him about, and said unto the people that followed him, I say unto you,
I have not found so great faith, no, not in Israel.
Why would Jesus marvel at the centurion's faith if it was a gift from God?
I could list dozens of other verses that show that faith is always attributed to the person who posseses it.
And not only did Jesus compliment people with great faith, he also criticized those with little faith. Neither make sense if their faith or lack of faith was the responsibility of God.
Matt 8:26 And he saith unto them, Why are ye fearful,
O ye of little faith? Then he arose, and rebuked the winds and the sea; and there was a great calm.
Jesus criticized the apostles here for lack of faith. That makes no sense if their faith came from God. The apostles could have rightly answered that they had little faith because that is all the faith God gave them.
And there are many verses like this as well. You see, this is yet
another false teaching of Calvinism. Whether you want to accept it or not, unsaved men know right from wrong and have the ability to choose between the two. Unsaved men also have the ability to believe or trust in others. You trust every day. When you buy food at the grocery store, you are trusting that the food is safe to eat. When you go out in your car you are trusting that the brakes will safely stop you, otherwise you would be afraid to drive your car.
James 1:6-7 shows that faith is the personal responsibility of a man.
Jam 1:6 But let him ask in faith, nothing wavering. For he that wavereth is like a wave of the sea driven with the wind and tossed.
7 For let not that man think that he shall receive any thing of the Lord.
These verses make absolutely no sense if faith is a gift from God. Here the scriptures hold a man accountable for believeing God's word and show that if a man doubts he will be penalized, and not receive the request of his prayer. If God gives one man faith, and withholds it from another then these verses make no sense.
Calvinists spiritualize faith when it is a very ordinary and human thing that we exercise everyday. Calvinists also pull Eph 2:8 out of context to teach faith is a gift, when the subject of the chapter is salvation not faith. And Rom 6:23 verifies this:
Rom 6:23 For the wages of sin is death;
but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.
The supernatural work in salvation is when the Holy Spirit enters a person and quickens them. But unsaved man can hear and understand the scriptures if they so choose. Faith is a choice. If I said to you that if you should send me ten dollars, in one week I will send you one hundred dollars, you would then have to decide if I am an honest and sincere person or a crook. If you believed me because you knew me well and knew me to be trustworthy, then you would probably send the money. If you did not know me or knew me to be untrustworthy, then you would not send the money. Faith is a decision, a choice that every person has the ability to perform.
In salvation, a man's personal will is the door. Jesus through the scriptures and calling of the Holy Spirit bids entry into a man. Only when a man chooses to trust Christ will he give permission for Jesus to enter. When the Holy Spirit enters, it is then that a man is quickened, made alive.
And I have shown scripture also that clearly shows an unsaved person lost in sins can hear the word of God and believe.
John 5:25 Verily, verily, I say unto you, The hour is coming,
and now is,
when the dead shall hear the voice of the Son of God: and they that hear shall live.
I also showed in Genesis when Adam and Eve had sinned and spiritually died that they could still communicate and understand God's word, and how they later believed God's promise to send a saviour. It was after believeing God's promise that God made skins for them covering them, a picture of the righteousness of Christ imputed to those who believe.