Originally posted by Scarlett O.:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />You think like a woman, and speak without knowing the facts.
This remark, brother, is the exact reason why I have to stay off of the Baptist Board for days at a time, sometimes weeks.
</font>[/QUOTE]Missed this as no reference at beginning addressed to me.
But why umbrage as you are a woman and think like a woman. I’ve been married 56 years, and I know my wife thinks as she is, and that is as a woman. If you tell me I think like a man, am I to have my feelings hurt? In this case you spoke without “stating” the facts, and then you blame me for this failure in some way causing your withdrawal. I apologize for I thought after three thousand posts you would have meet up with a “bozo” like me, and just ignore the way men think.
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />”And it came to pass afterward, that he loved a woman in the valley of Sorek, whose name was Delilah”, Judges 16:4
Yes, I read that verse, long before this discussion ever came up or before you posted it here. In my opinion, in the context of the story, he loved her in the flesh.
</font>[/QUOTE]I again apologize for my lack of understanding, as I could only go on what you told me, and am sorry I made the observation.
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Men do not stay in a constant relationship with a woman just for sex.
Hmmmm....some do. You know...."why buy the cow?"....
</font>[/QUOTE]When men stay in a relationship, a wife is born.
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />You are trying to say the women loved these men.
Nope. I never said that. In fact I said more than once that these relationships were not about love at all.
</font>[/QUOTE]Uh,um ……..So you did. But I see Samson loved, but the women which are not required to, may not at first. But as you say as time went on the women found other things more valuable to them than love, so it did not come to them. Touché.
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />...and it isn’t the role of the woman to love a man. That is not their purpose in life.
How sad.
</font>[/QUOTE]Yes, but the fact remains we do not find God requires this of women, but should come to love them. The woman of God will be in subjection, showing respect to their lord,
”For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: 6. Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement”, I Peter 3:5-6. A “quaint” custom of the day, or desire to please her husband?
These are not my sayings, but show the man and woman are “geared” differently, and God said “man” this is your role, and “woman” this is your role. We Christians act out our roles as prescribed by God.
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />No doubt he was like all healthy men. That is the way we are made, otherwise existence of all humans would have ended long ago. He learned His lesson of having a wife that did not honor him, so he was not as stupid at you think.
I never said that he was stupid.
</font>[/QUOTE]Said? No, but implied, Yes. I believe Samson did love Delilah, and this is the reason he told her; not because he was stupid enough just to tell her. I see He was blind with love.
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />You sure don’t like this guy that God blessed,....
What??
My post was not to berate Samson or Solomon for that matter. My post was written to refute your position that these men were failures because they "loved" too much. You made them sound to be the great romantic leads of the bible.....and they weren't.
</font>[/QUOTE]I only queued on your remark – “And on Samson's end, it was motivated by sex. She tried to trick him three times and three times he knew that she was turning him over to be killed. He knew that she didn't love him and he apparently did not care. Why on earth not?? I think you can figure that out.” You say he is a sex fiend, and I say he was in love.
I will give you though, Samson was strong, but very weak and child like in many ways.
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />There are so many things that parallel the lives of this man and Jesus
I'd be interested in that sermonette.
</font>[/QUOTE]Both Nazarenes , rejected of their people; Births foretold by angels, empowered by the Holy Spirit. Both Judges, and they gave their lives, but for different reasons.
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />As for love, I believe if you read the account again, you will find he loved her with all of his heart, else he would not have told her...
No, if you read the passage again, you will see that he told her because the nagged him about "unto death".
He was fed up - he couldn't take anymore.
</font>[/QUOTE]But she never invoked the word “love” until later toward the end. I don’t believe he would have stayed around that long, and would have tired of the “game” they played, but “love” did him in.
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />He proved his love by telling her, knowing it could, and did cost him his life. This is a mistake we all make in our lives. He loved this woman more that the gift God had given him, and that gift could be taken away. Our gift today cannot be taken from us as we are in His Body, but we fail just as did Samson.
You have romanticized this story waaaayyy too much.
</font>[/QUOTE]I suppose there is a little “Don Juan” in all we men, and we are told to love (inbounds of course). God loved Solomon, Samson, and all. I guess it shows, that I’m in love with Christ Jesus.
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Immoral relationship? What is immoral between these two.
She wasn't his "wife". That's immoral.
</font>[/QUOTE]He was married to her in the eyes of God, and would he have taken here to “wife” had things turned out differently? I don’t know. Perhaps we don’t understand all about “immorality” as we judge these sinners. I’m going to leave that up to Him. Samson is listed with David “by” faith. Who was the “apple of God’s eye” but the immoral David you say. I’ll not try to condemn these three forgiven great men of God -- David, Solomon, or Samson, these that God chose to rule over His people in their life time.
She was paid to have sex with him and to deceive him. That's immoral.
It’s as I said in the beginning. She is of her mother Eve. She will be judged, just as those of their father Adam. He will see we all get our just dues.
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Agree, but if not for the women it would not have happened. You have just quoted what I have been saying. Is it not love that turns the heart?
Do you honestly believe it is possible for man to fall in love with 1000 women? There are some of those women that he never even met. It wasn't love that turned the heart and that is not what Deuteronomy is talking about.
</font>[/QUOTE]Not in Deuteronomy, but found in I Kings 11:2-3,
”Of the nations concerning which the Lord said unto the children of Israel, Ye shall not go in to them, neither shall they come in unto you: for surely they will turn away your heart after their gods: Solomon clave unto these in love. 3. And he had seven hundred wives, princesses, and three hundred concubines: and his wives turned away his heart.”
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Again love as you pointed out above will turn the heart. All that could turn his heart was love. He as all others could not overcome his fallen nature. Lust always leads to idol worship.
Wait a minute. What are you talking about?
</font>[/QUOTE]Our subject of covetousness, lust resulting in the I Kings reference above. Idol worship will led us to lust, and lust will lead to idol worship.
Are you talking about love between a married man and a woman that represents the holy bond between Christ and the church?
Or are you talking about sex between people who just have a "relationship"?
My turn to way say, What? I didn’t think it necessary to point out legitimate lust, and illegitimate lust. In just about everything there can be good and bad. It was good if they lusted after food, wine, hard liquor, cattle or just about anything with their “tithe”, if they couldn’t get to the Temple (Deuteronomy 14:26). The marriage bed of the husband and wife is Holy, and even if one is an unbeliever their lust is sanctified, and on it goes as our allowed desire (temporary idol) is satisfied.
I think you and I are talking about two different things here.
And I think we have been the whole time.
I saw relevance playing off point you made of Deuteronomy 17 turning of heart.
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