Hi there, my name is Winman, I am new here, but have been following this thread a few days. Myself, I do not believe Calvinist doctrine, I believe God gives every person free will concerning salvation.
Rev 22:17 And the Spirit and the bride say, Come. And let him that heareth say, Come. And let him that is athirst come. And whosoever will, let him take the water of life freely.
I believe this verse shows that salvation is available to anyone, and whether to be saved or not is a person's individual choice.
If ever there was an argument that would support those who believe God determines whether a person believes or listens, it would be the story of Pharoah in Exodus.
3 times God says he will harden Pharoah's heart Exo 4:21, 7:3, 14:4.
1 time it says God will harden the Egyptian's hearts Exo 14:17
15 times the Bible says God hardened Pharoah's heart Exo 7:13, 7:14, 7:22, 8:15, 8:19, 8:32, 9:7, 9:12, 9:34, 9:35, 10:1, 10:20, 10:27, 11:10, 14:8
So, on the surface it would appear that God does indeed determine whether a person will believe God, or harken to his words.
But if you go to Exodus chapter 3 you see that God knew beforehand that Pharoah would not listen to him.
Exo 3:16 Go, and gather the elders of Israel together, and say unto them, The LORD God of your fathers, the God of Abraham, of Isaac, and of Jacob, appeared unto me, saying, I have surely visited you, and seen that which is done to you in Egypt:
17 And I have said, I will bring you up out of the affliction of Egypt unto the land of the Canaanites, and the Hittites, and the Amorites, and the Perizzites, and the Hivites, and the Jebusites, unto a land flowing with milk and honey.
18 And they shall hearken to thy voice: and thou shalt come, thou and the elders of Israel, unto the king of Egypt, and ye shall say unto him, The LORD God of the Hebrews hath met with us: and now let us go, we beseech thee, three days' journey into the wilderness, that we may sacrifice to the LORD our God.
19 And I am sure that the king of Egypt will not let you go, no, not by a mighty hand.
20 And I will stretch out my hand, and smite Egypt with all my wonders which I will do in the midst thereof: and after that he will let you go.
So you see two different types of person here. God knew beforehand that the elders would listen to Moses's voice, and God also knew that Pharoah would not listen.
It is not that God caused Pharoah not to listen, but God knew Pharoah was exceedingly proud and would refuse to listen. And this is exactly the attitude Pharoah showed.
Exo 5:2 And Pharaoh said, Who is the LORD, that I should obey his voice to let Israel go? I know not the LORD, neither will I let Israel go.
And, as you follow the story, each time God brought a plague on Egypt, Pharoah would call for Moses and offer to let the children of Israel go. But each time, as soon as the plague was ended, Pharoah would change his mind and refuse to let them go. So, Pharoah was changing his mind here over and over again, which shows he had personal choice in the matter.
At one time, Pharoah even admitted he had sinned.
Exo 9:27 And Pharaoh sent, and called for Moses and Aaron, and said unto them, I have sinned this time: the LORD is righteous, and I and my people are wicked. 28 Intreat the LORD (for it is enough) that there be no more mighty thunderings and hail; and I will let you go, and ye shall stay no longer.
So here, Pharoah actually seems to repent and admit his sin. But what is Moses response to Pharoah?
29 And Moses said unto him, As soon as I am gone out of the city, I will spread abroad my hands unto the LORD; and the thunder shall cease, neither shall there be any more hail; that thou mayest know how that the earth is the LORD'S.
30 But as for thee and thy servants, I know that ye will not yet fear the LORD God.
And sure enough, look at verses 34-35
Exo 9:34 And when Pharaoh saw that the rain and the hail and the thunders were ceased, he sinned yet more, and hardened his heart, he and his servants.
35 And the heart of Pharaoh was hardened, neither would he let the children of Israel go; as the LORD had spoken by Moses.
Note that the Bible says Pharoah sinned yet more and hardened his heart. It does not say God hardened his heart, it says Pharoah himself hardened his own heart.
And if it was God's will that Pharoah's heart should be hardened, then how could this be a sin? Pharoah would be doing the will of God.
So, men have choice. But God knows beforehand those who are proud and will resist him, and will not repent. These folks are fit for destruction by their own choices.