Here are some quotes:
http://baptistboard.com/showpost.php?p=1496657&postcount=160
http://baptistboard.com/showpost.php?p=1496875&postcount=166
This doesn't make sense no matter how you look at it.
Man has no free will, no choice, until God comes and regenerates his heart. I suppose he could do that to the heathen in Africa or to anyone in this world--kind of like universalism. But it is God that does the work; it doesn't matter who receives it because we know it is "the elect." Somehow this is a magical event. There is no faith involved.
Not until the above event, the new birth, takes place can man have the faith to respond to the gospel call.
That is not what happened on the Day of Pentecost. And you would have a hard time proving it.
Just because OR says it doesn't mean it's the common belief of Calvinists. No reformed belief says that man is born again against his will or in spite of his will. I don't know where universalism comes in - because that's certainly not what the reformed belief is.
Let's look at some other quotes from those who stand on the doctrine of grace:
How Regeneration is Accomplished
In regeneration a person the Holy Spirit makes use of the law and the gospel. There is not only a moral but also a direct nature-changing work of the Spirit on the minds or souls of men in regeneration. This is what we must hold on to, or all the glory of God’s grace is lost, and the grace which comes to us by Christ will be neglected. Paul tells us of this direct work of the Spirit: “That you may know ... what s the exceeding greatness of his power towards us who believe, according to the work of his mighty power which he worked in Christ when he raised him from the dead’ (Eph 1:18:- 2). The power here mentioned has an exceeding greatness attributed to it, because by this power Christ was physically raised from the dead. Paul would have us know that the same mighty power which God worked in Christ when he raised him from the dead is the same mighty power which the Holy Spirit works when he raises us from spiritual death to spiritual life in regeneration. By this same mighty power we are kept by God to the day of salvation. It is because of his mighty power continually working in Christians that they are kept from ever falling away so as to be eternally lost.
...Where any work of grace begun in a person does not result in regeneration and the salvation of that person, it is because God never intended to regenerate that person, and so did not work that work in him. There is an important doctrinal principle to learn here. When the Holy Spirit intends to regenerate a person, he removes all obstacles, overcomes all resistance and opposition, and infallibly produces the result he intended.
...how can this be done without forcing and compelling the will? ..the work of regeneration is an internal work, transforming our very nature. This work of regeneration is not preached to the will and so it not resisted by the will, but it works effectively on the will, wonderfully renewing it. The will, in the first act of conversion, does not will or choose to act first and then is regenerated. Rather it is first renewed by regeneration and then it wills or chooses. The will lies passive or inert until roused by the Holy Spirit in regeneration. There is an inward, almighty, secret act of power producing or working in us the will to be converted to God. This act of power so works on our wills [affections] that we freely and gladly will what God wants us to will and choose, which is to do his will.
by John Owen http://www.monergism.com/thethreshold/articles/onsite/owenoverthrow.html
Spiritual affections, which give rise to the desire to come to Christ, are only possible though regeneration, the sovereign act of a merciful God. This re-creation generates the effects of repentance and faith. Many modern-day churches have abandoned this biblical teaching which was recovered at the Reformation. Some pastors turn the truth on its head and say that a man’s autonomous faith is what produces the new birth. But this fails to account for the existence of spiritual desires ... where did they get them? ... and especially, prior to conversion, why do some men have such spiritual affections and not others? This utterly fails to recognize the depth of our hostile unspiritual heart condition, prior to salvation, nor does it account for the existence of spiritual affections at all. Such a wonderful gift does not appear out of thin air ... no ... it derives its source and benefit from the person and work of Christ alone.
John Hendryx http://www.monergism.com/thethreshold/articles/onsite/spirit_affections.html
In reading these, I like the terms that they're using to better describe what happens. The Holy Spirit "quickens" man and "enlightens" him - man responds in the way that he will respond to the Gospel by putting his faith in Christ - and he is "born" at that point. It all happens so closely together that it seems to be one movement but it is, in fact, separate.