Calvinists who believe that Arminians live in fear of falling have ONLY fear. Because Calvinists can never KNOW they're saved, until they DIE (and prove by dying-in-faith, by perseverance) that their faith was REAL.
Only perseverance proves "real faith", being one of God's elect.
Only death ends the question of "will he CONTINUE to persevere"...
The FALSE (unelect) can believe, and can persevere for a while...
...but the false will ultimately (before dying), FALL...
...if a person dies AFTER falling, he never WAS "elect"...
...if a person dies WITHOUT falling, he proved his electness BY perseverance...
Thus you cannot know you're "really elect", until you die.
That's really fearful, isn't it?
Furthermore, Calvin taught 'evanescent grace' that God deliberately deceived some of those He has reprobated to believe and imagine themselves saved when, in fact, that was not the case -
“... Experience shows that the reprobate are sometimes affected in a way so similar to the elect that even in their own judgment there is no difference between them. Hence, it is not strange, that by the Apostle a taste of heavenly gifts, and by Christ himself a temporary faith is ascribed to them. Not that they truly perceive the power of spiritual grace and the sure light of faith; but the Lord, the better to convict them, and leave them without excuse, instills into their minds such a sense of goodness as can be felt without the Spirit of adoption .... there is a great resemblance and affinity between the elect of God and those who are impressed for a time with a fading faith .... Still it is correctly said, that the reprobate believe God to be propitious to them, inasmuch as they accept the gift of reconciliation, though confusedly and without due discernment; not that they are partakers of the same faith or regeneration with the children of God; but because, under a covering of hypocrisy they seem to have a principle of faith in common with them. Nor do I even deny that God illumines their mind to this extent .... there is nothing inconsistent in this with the fact of his enlightening some with a present sense of grace, which afterwards proves evanescent” (3.2.11, Institutes).
In light of John Calvin’s teaching, the salvation assurance that Calvinists speak of is merely empty words, since they won’t really know until the very end of their lives if they were elect or not! Perhaps God just granted them an evanescent grace in which they feel saved but really aren’t. [By this teaching, Calvinists shockingly portray the God who cannot lie (Titus 1:2) as forcing untrue feelings on some people, in order to deceive them!]
How could any Calvinist truly be sure of Heaven himself? Though they might speak or write of salvation assurance, such really isn’t consistent with Calvinism! According to that theology, Calvinists might have been merely reprobates all along and have only been given by God an evanescent grace.
Ray