You are jumping around mixing apples and oranges.
No one believes in anniliationism....the dead will hear Jesus...not savingly
but they will here Him say- depart from me you who work iniquity,I never at any time knew you.
9But I will sacrifice unto thee with the voice of thanksgiving; I will pay that that I have vowed. Salvation is of the LORD
I agree with you that salvation is of the LORD.
An analogy:
I am drowning in a swimming pool;
#1 You see me drowning and have a life preserver, but fail to throw it to me. Who is responsible if I drown? YOU ARE, as you had the power to help me, but neglected to do so.
#2 You see me drowning and throw the life preserver to me. You shout for me to grab it so you can pull me in. But instead of grabbing the life preserver, I attempt to save myself. But as I cannot swim, I drown. Who is responsible for my drowning? I AM. You are not responsible because you made a real effort to help me.
#3 You see me drowning and throw a life preserver to me. I quit trying to save myself and grab hold of the preserver, you pull me to the side of the pool and help me out. Who is responsible for saving me? YOU ARE, for unless you would have thrown the preserver to me, I would have drowned.
#1 is what Calvinism teaches, and makes God responsible, as he made no effort to save man when it was within his power to do so.
#2 is scriptural, and shows man responsible for his own death if he does not take hold of the grace of God extended to him.
#3 is also scriptural and shows God ONLY receives glory when a man takes hold of the grace God extends to him, for without this grace the man would perish.