The problem lies within your inability and unwillingness to dump your proof-text theology. The other side of the coin is your seeming unwillingness to give God the Glory, and to recognize His full control of all things. I also feel you may harbor some ill feelings about it since He is in full control of all things. Also, I had a grandfather who embraced this limitted God theology, shared with me commentary (can't remember the autor, but from Coc) that showed the authors unwillingness to give God glory. It was ugly really, a very oppressive and anti-biblical representation of God. After all his arguing, on his death bed, he asked how to make sure he was saved, having believed in baptismal regeneration.
You're not believing and accepting God has all authority. It takes an eye of faith also Winman, and this based upon the entire counsel of God. This withstanding fell all into Gods plan and worked exactly accordingly. Tell me whats wrong with that and why you have a problem with it. Tell me you think God was surprised and was delayed by this unknowingly and had to go to plan B? I actually believe you would believe this, and in it I see a weak, limitted God, not Almighty God of the Scriptures. Not picking, it just looks pretty apparent to me.