John, I think need to come to term with the fact that there are thousands of "regular" christians who happen to agree with the primary tenets of Calvinism when it comes to soteriology. We may not have an answer to every objection (though some may seem to think they do), but many of us, like me, simply have not heard a convincing argument against individual election, and so when we see verses that seem to say God chooses who will be saved (like those I posted on this thread:
http://www.baptistboard.com/showthread.php?t=75006&highlight=calvinism )
...We have to say, "I believe that, those verses seem to say God Chooses (individually) who will be saved."
If it is a lie from the pit of hell, it has been a lie believed by some undeniably godly preachers and theologians thought he ages of the church, Just as the opposite view has motivated some great evangelistic work though the ages of the church.
There ARE Biblical verses that seem to support Calvinism, just as there are biblical verses that seem to refute it. The view one takes on this issue (on either side) does not necessarily mean they should be relegated to the fringes and considered outside "normal" Christianity.
http://www.baptistboard.com/showthread.php?t=75006&highlight=calvinism