Featured Divorce and Remarriage before Salvation

Just gonna have to agree to disagree on this point, I guess. If they remarried they have no intention of going back to you, and are extremely unlikely to drop this new marriage simply because you had a change of heart.

 

That is not a valid comparison because the reasoning is different. The reasoning I gave is scripture-based. Should someone try to change their ways, sure. Should they try to see if their old divorced spouse wants to get back together? Maybe. But if the answer is no and said former spouse is going to keep their new marriage, they're free.

 

It is. Adultery is considered a valid reason for divorce according to scripture. Divorce is termination of a marriage union and responsibilities.

 

I see. That situation is not what I'm referring to. I was referring to this:

I did not respond to your response to the abuse question because while I must disagree there isn't really anything to say. Thank you for your answer, though.

 

Isn't that the assertion this entire thread and everyone in it has been making?

The situation is this:
You divorce. You remarry. You don't know Jesus. Years later you come to know him. In an attempt to turn away from wrongdoing let's say you talk to your current spouse and then contact your former spouse and tell them the situation and ask if they want to get back together. They say no, they are remarried and don't want to give it up. My argument is by that point at least your responsibility is severed. You did what you could.

 

Going by the assertion that according to God they are still married unless there was a valid reason, they are still married and only divorced according to the laws of the land. Legally they do not have responsibilities to their former spouse, morally they do.
In the situation I provided, it is the same as if the adultery occurred within their legal marriage. If the other person isn't willing to stop, they are committing adultery and the union is dropped in a spiritual, not just legal, sense. The past is irrelevant because it can't be changed, they can only focus on the present and future.

 

According to the Bible one who is having a sexual relationship with his second wife commits adultery every time they sleep together as long as the first wife is still alive. Whether they were married before Salvation or not. Just because a man finds Salvation after the divorce does not nullify the marriage contract to his first wife.
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Well Zaac I want to thank you for freeing me from wasting the rest of my life trying to serve the Lord, when you and your alter ego on the other thread have clearly declared me a unrepentant sinner for being married to a divorced woman. You have determined that I am not allowed to be saved, or in my case was never really saved, or maybe I lost my salvation.

You have made it clear that myself, and all others like me will be in hell while you and the ones you tell Jesus that it is OK to let into His Heaven, party with the angels.

I hope you do everyone at your church a favor, and next Sunday let them in on the rules according to Zaac. If you are a sinner than don't bother coming back, but keep sending your money, pastor needs a new Mercedes.

People like you, with your Legalistic view on things is what is hurting the Church today. Let's give the visitors a checklist to find out what sins they have committed. If you don't go to the westboro baptist church, you should, or maybe yours is already like them.

 

I'm not trying to justify the ORIGINAL divorce. I'm saying that in this situation, the present being at some point long after the divorce, the marriage covenant is absolved because of the actions of the other. The saved individual learned of his mistake and tried to correct it, the other won't have it and continues to live in adultery.

 

Good grief, I feel like I'm just repeating myself at this point. Clearly we're not getting anywhere. I don't know if you're just being contrary or missing the point or misunderstanding me (it sounds almost like you think I think the adultery on the part of the saved person is what makes the moving on okay, but that is not what I'm saying and never was), or what. Thanks for the discussion, let's agree to disagree.

eta: Just so it's clear, I always drop out of debates before too long, so this isn't unusual for me. A day or two is pretty standard. I appreciate the mental exercise debate gives me, and I really have learned a lot from making myself participate in debates in general. But as someone who dislikes conflict it stresses me out, so I either avoid debate exchanges or drop them after a certain point.