Featured I'm taking the spiritual lead in my family

I am.

The point is that you should work this out with your wife instead of taking up sides. If your wife gets something important from this other church, then you need to seriously consider continuing there for her benefit. Most of all, you need to figure out what she is getting there that is important to her.

This is not about getting one's way - this is about serving each other.

 

But it's not all about you and your needs. This is about you loving your wife.

 

This is a private matter. It should be between you and your wife. It should not be discussed on a public forum. Wouldn't it be awkward to try and explain if she would come across all your disagreements with her on this board through the years?

 

Mine. Because I love her and can deal with the difference in my preference.

 

How do you know?

 

Hardly.

You may need to associate with more people who don't think exactly like you. I didn't even have to think about the answer because I know a number of situations where this is true. I teach a Sunday School class with two transplanted Presbyterians who attend our Baptist church in deference to their wives. These fine men are theologically astute and I use them as my resident experts on Calvinism when someone has a question about he subject (I am not a Calvinist).

They are respectful of my position and I am respectful of theirs and we learn from each other.

Beyond their theology, they passionately love their wives and children and have strong marriages and serve as strong examples of godly manhood in our congregation.

 

Well, let her be that way....however you have to feel comfortable at a church you fit in with with. Look, my wife doesn't even go ....primarily because she is hurt by past experiences. So at least both you & your wife are going. Make friends at her choice & go make friends at the DOG church & go to both.....at least your appeasing her to some point. And it ain't easy.......what ever they tell you they always want their own way. Your job is to shut up, smile & say YES DEAR.

Another question, where do they feed you best? That should solidify your weekly church selection, where we going this week question! LOL

Don't sweat the small stuff EVAN!!!

 

Yea but you are whipped. Thought vikings......well, never mind.

 

Possibly.

 

If it violates your conscience to attend the church, perhaps you may need to attend separate churches for a while. That being said, I would hope that you could have a series of gentle, heart-felt conversations about what would be the best option.


Question: What are her reasons for not wanting to change?

 

Perhaps you have heard of Billy and Ruth Bell Graham?
She was Presbyterian all her life, did not join the Baptist church Billy pastored near Wheaton, had her babies sprinkled, etc.

From Ruth and Billy Graham: The Legacy of a Couple:

"In Montreat, Ruth and her five children regularly attended the local Presbyterian church. Well-meaning friends of Billy's wanted to convert Ruth to the Baptist faith, but anyone familiar with Ruth's character was aware that this was an impossible undertaking. . . .Ruth's opinion was that, if anything, it was Billy who should switch churches. . . .When Billy was at home on a Sunday, he and the family attended the local Presbyterian church."