My wife wants a divorce

We have been married almost 12 years; but on Monday night I was dealt an unexpected announcement. She has been chatting with an alleged American doctor in Syria for a few weeks who will be moving back to the States in a few months. She claims that he can offer her more than I can. She says that he has houses in Alabama and Texas, is widowed, has a 12-year old daughter attending school in Lebanon, is offering her an executive's job in his oil company, and they can live anywhere they want to. Several friends claim that this is a scam, that this "doctor"is trying to get her (our) money. I work at a convenience store where I make a tenth of what this "doctor" is making. I was a teacher; but have had problems keeping jobs due to issues with disciplining students. I need prayer that I will be protected from any fall-out; but she claims that this is a real person.

 

Thank you, but we have no children. We got married when we were both in our early 40s, plus she has always felt that pregnancy would be complicated due to her age and other health issues. However, why would she all of a sudden get an urge to marry someone with a child?????

 

She is a Christian.

 

On Monday, things took an unexpected turn. She broke down in tears, telling me that she was sorry for what she did. After refusing my offer for a settlement in a divorce (she would stay with her mother 40 minutes away while I stay in the trailer we just rented last month), she seemed to want a second chance. However, I am still suspecting she is contacting "this" doctor as I notice her texting and hiding her phone so I won't see who she's texting. When I asked her about this, all she says is "No worries'!.
Makes we wonder if her repentance is actually sincere. She also claims that when she talked to my former boss, who incidentally has a master's in Biblical Counseling from Liberty, he encouraged her to stay the course and understand that money doesn't make the marriage.
I am still wondering if I should still plan to divorce her, as this affair is causing our marriage to never be the same as it was. If I stay, do I place "sanctions" on her like not taking her out to eat, going to different churches, having separate bank accounts, etc??????

 

An update--she has not said anything about the "affair" or the "doctor" she was supposedly coveting these past 10 days.

 

Another update--I thought I caught her chatting with the other man the other morning when her phone went off during a tornado warning; but she told me that she found out that people like him are scam artists, and that she was trying to hold him off when he asked her for money. Thank you everyone for praying.

 

Everything is on the upswing in my marriage. Thank you again for praying for God's restoration power.