You are correct, of course.
Legalism manifest itself, often, in the attempt to coerce other Christians to accept your own view of nonconformity, usually by questioning their commitment to God or even their salvation if they disagree.
Let each be convinced in their own minds and be aware that each of us navigate the waters of Christian liberty and nonconformity.
peace to you
Legalism - as I understand the term - is imposing upon others rules that are not laid down in the Bible - the 'traditions of the elders' (Mark 7:5 etc.). To point people to the commands of God as they are laid down in the Bible is not legalism. The Lord Jesus said,
"If you love Me, keep My commandments." Do we? Will we?
I am not tlking about sinless perfection here. The Apostle John wrote,
‘If we say we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us’ (1John 1:8), whilst James tells us that,
‘We all stumble in many ways’ (James 3:2). What we are talking about here is a true
longing for holiness; a desire to be like our Lord. As the Puritans used to say, we cannot lay hold of Heaven while our hands are still full of our sins. Therefore the true Christian joyfully lays down all his sins at the foot of the cross and declares with the Psalmist,
‘I delight to do Your will, O my God, and Your law is within my heart’ (Psalm 40:8). That is why it is not possible for a
practising thief, liar, adulterer or homosexual to be a Christian, whatever they may declare. Anyone who says to himself, “I want to become a Christian, but I won’t stop doing that…”, whatever “that” may be, is on the broad road to destruction (Matt. 7:13). We are told of Levi, the tax collector that he,
‘left all, rose up and followed [Jesus]’ (Luke 5:28). We may or may not be called to leave our jobs or our families when we become Christians, but we are certainly called to leave our sins (John 8:11) even if they are as dear to us as our right hands or right eyes (Matt. 5:29). Alas, perfect sinlessness will still elude us, but when we confess our sins, God looks into our hearts, sees our sincerity and forgives us for Christ’s sake.
‘My little children, these things I write to you, that you may not sin. And if anyone sins, we have an advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ, the Righteous’ (1John 2:1).