JF
Think of salvation as a process. Not the justification part, which is called positional sanctification, but the practical or progressive part of sanctification. Our becoming what God already reckons us to be in Christ. The practical salvation starts with the life, which starts with the indwelling of the Holy Spirit, which results in our being born again, the beginning of that life. That's all of God, that's all of grace. Man is not captain of His salvation, as God is, 100% of that life.
But.............., the faith that comes before that life to initiate that indwelling, and thus initiate the life, comes from somewhere else. Calvinism, to solve that problem in their two options only theory, stretches that life to include the initial faith, but that Idea is extremely hostile to Scripture and the simple Gospel message itself, as there are many clear passages that say otherwise, as I have shown you just a few. To which Calvinism then ignores and then appeals to their TULIP as proof. There's more to the picture. There's more than two options. Old Testament believers prove this. Calvinism cannot stand in the face of complete Scripture context. Your extremes do not paint an accurate picture, but appear to be an appeal to play on peoples emotions. Please consider that there is more to learn, and Calvin, like many others, did not have all the answers. Let Scripture speak, and listen. Look at these passages.
Galatians 3:2-3 This only I want to learn from you: Did you receive the Spirit by the works of the law, or by the hearing of faith? Are you so foolish? Having begun in the Spirit, are you now being made perfect by the flesh?
We are perfected/matured in that life by the Spirit, by God, not the flesh. That life begins as a result of our initial faith . You have the right idea, but the wrong context.
Romans 5:1-2 Therefore, having been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom also we have access by faith into this grace in which we stand, and rejoice in hope of the glory of God.