Well, my initial understanding of what you've just posted, tells me that you do not believe in "Particular Redemption" , in in the detailed sense.
That Christ's death was for the elect, that His blood cleansed them and redeemed them, and that His resurrection was for them...not the unbeliever.
Please keep in mind that it wasn't all that long ago that I believed very similar to what you seem to be stating, Jon...so far be it from me to slam you.
Any time you'd like to discuss it, I can tell you how I believe the Lord got me there...but I'm finding, even in my personal interactions among my small fellowship, that showing someone and letting God show someone, are two entirely different things with different approaches.