I havent posted for awhile but Im home for the day so why not..
First Calvinists do beleive that the means by which the Spirit gives life (regenerate) is through the Word of God. So nobody will be born again aside from the Gospel of Christ. There are many different scenarios by which God has done this work.
I personally was raised in a Baptist church, since I was about 7 I remembered going to church. I remember about 11 getting scared of hell and being told that I am a sinner and Jesus is my Savior. I prayed to recieve Christ and was baptized then. To make a long story short I honestly dont think I was born again or saved at that time. When I was about 22 I was invited to church by my grandmother and I only did it to please her because she was so good to me. At this time I was big into partying and fullfilling all that was worldy with no sign of rebirth or love for God, but rather a worldly growth. I would have told you I was saved at that time and that to be saved you must ask Jesus into your heart and I also would have told you God was the most important thing in life. I was absolutely blind of who I was and what life was all about and the few things I knew about God didn't penitrate my heart. I was even thought of as a great kid and the parents were very proud of me. Anyway, the sermon the pastor preached that Sunday was used by God to begin a search and serious evaluation of myself. For the first time in my life I bought a bible and began to search it and pray honestly to God, seeing the real filthy rags that I was. I saw myself lower than a Jewish leader of Jesus day. I personally was very broken and it quickly came to a point in which I literally threw my life on Jesus for mercy because of this. I had a very dramatic conversion and I only knew the Gospel at a kindergarten level at best. All this happened within the span of a couple of weeks and I am not sure what point I actually was born again. I do know that My heart had been greatly changed in a way that I didnt understand, and for the first time hungered the things of God and so forth. There was a new part of me that I never really knew and all of my family and friends noticed without me telling them due to the overflows of the work of the Holy Spirit in me.
"The wind blows where it wishes, and you hear its sound, but you do not know where it comes from or where it goes. So it is with everyone who is born of the Spirit." John 3:8
That is a great testimony. And it is scriptural, because it shows you first heard the word of God and then trusted Christ. The scriptures say you receive the Spirit after believeing, not before. That said, I believe it is almost an instantaneous event.
John 7:38
He that believeth on me, as the scripture hath said,
out of his belly shall flow rivers of living water.
39 (But this spake he of the Spirit,
which they that believe on him
should receive: for the Holy Ghost was not yet given; because that Jesus was not yet glorified.)
This was before Jesus was crucified, yet many believed on him. It was not until the day of Pentacost that they received the Holy Spirit. There are several other examples in the book of Acts where a person first believed (after hearing the gospel) and later received the Holy Spirit. This is always the pattern shown in scripture.
As for John 3:8, what I personally believe is that Jesus is saying that you cannot see the wind, but you can feel, see, and hear the effects of it. You can feel it blow across your skin, you can see the trees being moved by the wind, you can hear a great wind, but yet you cannot actually see the wind itself. And this is the effect of the Holy Spirit. You cannot see it with your eyes, but you can see it's effect on those who have received the Spirit.
The word of God is spirit and truth. But you must receive the word into your heart. Even non-believers often hear the word of God, but they do not receive it. In fact, your very testimony confirms this.
Rom 10:8 But what saith it? The
word is nigh thee, even in thy mouth,
and in thy heart: that is,
the word of faith, which we preach;
9 That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe
in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved.
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For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.
You could be dying of thirst in the desert. I could offer you water to drink. But it will not do you any good unless you receive the water and drink it.
John 4:14 But
whosoever drinketh of the water that I shall give him shall never thirst; but the water that I shall give him shall be
in him a well of water springing up into everlasting life.
Having the water available will do you no good. You have to actually drink the water for it to work it's effect on you.
The perfect and simple picture of salvation is Rev. 3:20. Christ knocks on the door of every man's heart and bids entry. But a man must open the door of his own free and voluntary will and invite Jesus in. So you see, a man is called or bidden by the Holy Spirit from outside the man, but to receive life a man must open the door and receive Christ inwardly
Rev 3:20 Behold, I stand at the door, and knock:
if any man hear my voice, and open the door, I will come
in to him, and will sup with him, and he with me.
Calvinists can argue all day long that God regenerates a man first. The Bible shows a man must hear the word of God first, then receive Christ by believeing. It also shows that receiveing Christ is a decision of the will.
Rev 22:17 And the Spirit and the bride say, Come. And let him that heareth say, Come. And let him that is athirst come. And
whosoever will, let him
take the water of life freely.