ok webdog,
fine.
but to look down on someone because they DON'T drink alcohol or dance or wear pants is just as judgemental!
Why would you assume that I would "look down on someone" for those things? We all do unwise things, and frankly, "continuing shopping" can be a very UNwise thing, too! lol (attempt at humor, just laugh) =)
Seriously, you will find that most of us are no more judgemental in reality than anyone else at any other church coming from the opposite point of view on these issues. Ive been looked down on just as much because of my standards. I try not to look down on anyone else who has different standards. Also, saying an activity is unwise is not judging that person solely on that activity.
Let me say too, people of all stripes come to my church. People with tattoos, wearing shorts, dresses, pants, people who stand outside and have a smoke before church, people who were at a bar the night before......on and on and on.....we are an inner city church, we'd better be able to handle seeing people from all walks of life and accepting them where they are and for who they are.
I know there are some who post hardline positions and sound very harsh, but I bet if you got to know them on a personal, face-to-face basis, most of them would be far gentler in person.