Grace is a THING of God. Love is GOD himself. No Love, No grace.
1 john 4
8The one who does not love does not know God, for God is love.
Those bible lines are a horror to all devil worshippers who need a Hitler God with a egotistic favoritism.
1 John 4 : 16 1/2
God is love, and the one who abides in love abides in God.
One who abides in Love, Abides in God.
AGAPE is a person.
The Goal of Christianity is GOD. God almighty is the highest priority.
1 Timothy 1
5But the goal of our instruction is love from a pure heart and a good conscience and a sincere faith.
If you don't see God or Jesus in the above 1 Timothy 1 verse that proves 1 john 4 one who doesn't love doesn't know God.
A selfish person can only understand the expression of a SELFISH GOD. A selfish person understands power, violence, force and might makes right for himself.
Mercy, kindness, compassion these things are always looked on as weak by evil. Evil looks for every excuse to do away with mercy. Evil enjoys the suffering of others.