JDale,
The Bible does containly contain a doctrine called "The Lordship of Jesus Christ", but this shouldn't be confused with making Him the "Lord of your life" though in order to be saved. Many people also confuse discipleship with salvation. They think that if you're not called, you're not saved. So if Israel is chosen - does that mean all the Jews are saved? No. The Bible clearly states that only a remnant will be saved out of Israel.
One doesn't have to be either Arminian or Calvinist either in one's outlook - just a sinner who believes in Jesus Christ as his/her Saviour. Saved by Grace, through faith in Jesus Christ, and through faith alone, not by works. I'm neither an Arminianist or a Calvinist. I'm just a sinner saved by Grace. Even the best Christian is just a sinner, but a saved one nevertheless.
Once you let go of all the works and let God do all the work through Jesus Christ, you appreciate your salvation and right-standing with Him in a very special way, and He can accomplish more in and with you - I'm a very good example of this. I always held onto grace + law in order to be saved, or grace + self-righteousness, and guess what? I was always questioning my salvation. Since I was shown that it is through His grace and His grace alone - I've grown. It is not our righteousness, but His righteousness that justifies us. We are rotten to the core really - and when God looks at us He sees Jesus' Righteousness and that's what brings us into right-standing with Him.
The works that we do as Christians should be to please God - that should be our underlying motive, our works should not be done as a pathway to salvation, as we cannot save ourselves.
Once you hold onto saved by grace through faith alone in Jesus Christ alone - you view people differently as well - you're not so prone to judging them because you realise that is you, that can very well be you (what the otrher person is saying/doing) - we all stumble and fall - even John the Baptist questioned whether Jesus was the Messiah - his faith took a knock in jail, and was he saved? Yes he was. We are all merely human. Fallen humans. And that's why we need to ease up on one another.
Take water baptism for instance - it's a sign of discipleship, not salvation - yet many people take it to be a sign of salvation. Many people confuse predestination with salvation as well. Christians are predestined to become like Christ (after the rapture/resurrection), they are not predestined to salvation. So salvation is only through Christ alone, not through works that we might boast - and works means anything that we might do in order to be saved. It is my understanding that Jesus rather BECOMES the Lord of our lives as we grow IN GRACE.
The Apostle Paul who is seen as the greatest Christian to have ever lived even stated, "O wretched man that I am" and called himself the "chief of sinners". My bet is that you would've banged heads even with Paul,
And last, but not least - there is a lot of pride in testifying to one's salvation via Lordship Salvation because in effect one is saying "I've made Jesus my Lord" which means that Jesus controls your life and that you are TOTALLY YIELDED - which you are not, because no-one is. Why? Because all still sin. So in effect we are giving something to God to get something in return - it's like making a trade for salvation - "I'll make you the Lord of my life and you will give me salvation". Therefore this type of salvation is earned. But salvation is never earned because it's a FREE GIFT that we just need to RECEIVE.
So easy - yet many find it so difficult cos they feel the need to DO something in order to be saved, this boils down to their actual trust in the Lord - they don't trust Him enough to save them, which equates to unbelief, which equates to rebellion, which in turn equates to witchcraft. That's why at the end of the day Salvation amounts to belief and reliance in Him (total dependence and trust), not giving up one's sins. The true meaning of Biblical repentance is to have a change of mind, i.e., to change from unbelief to belief in Him.
JBale, I trust this helps you and gives you a clearer picture.