What I se in your response is that you are ignoring the scriptures I posted. Would you care to provide scripture that disproves what I had posted. You make claims that you do not backup. We all know that God is sovereign but where are your verses that clearly show God granting faith unto salvation.
I know you're going back and forth with 3 different people at once but I don't really know how to respond to this when I agreed with your post.
What did you miss in the scripture I posted? Did you not see that it is the person that hears and believes are the ones that are saved? Those that confess Christ Jesus are saved? These are not hard concepts to understand as the text is clear. It seems you have a problem accepting this clear scripture as it does not align with your theological view.
There was no rejection of those clear scriptures. It's just that other scriptures show that those that hear and believe are the one's who have been supernaturally enlightened by the Holy Spirit. Other scriptures show that those that hear and believe are the elect and they were predestinated. You don't have to understand that. I personally think you can even reject that and still be a Christian. (Although a lot of Calvinists would disagree with me there.)
This is a theological discussion forum so we will discuss all the theology but I realize that most of us, and myself also, during my working days and days of raising a family were so busy that we don't have the time to go into this in such detail. So we hear the gospel, repent of our sins and try to do everything after that that we can understand as being God's will as taught to us when we go to church and read the Bible. That's it. And it is sufficient.
But if you do have the time and inclination to look at theology, what we call Calvinism does the best job of trying to explain these things in a systematic way. I do think that in the TULIP and in the WCF, there is an oversimplification of how the Holy Spirit works and how and when supernatural light and grace is resisted. I also think there is a disconnect between Calvinistic theology and Calvinistic preaching - even among high Calvinists like Owen and Edwards, not just Spurgeon. I've said before, they sound a lot like old fashioned "Hell, Fire and Brimstone" preachers to me.
I think the problems of men reside mostly in their mindset and will. I believe supernatural light works mostly at that level. So when I say the Holy Spirit changes your will, you envision being turned into a puppet and I envision you still doing what you want to do. We will look at the same scriptures and come up with different conclusions.
It's the same with predestination and determinism. I look at something being predestinated as coming about in spite of us all doing what we want without any violation of our wills. You look at it as string puppets being manipulated by God. So once again, the same scriptures will mean something completely different to you as they do to me.
Regarding the idea of how you "decide" to become a believer, I recommend the sermon "A Divine and Supernatural Light, Immediately Imparted to the Soul by the Spirit of God, Shown to be Both a Scriptural and Rational Doctrine", by Jonathan Edwards. Guess what it's about.