Originally posted by Eladar:
The woman is supposed to be submissive.
The word submissive does not imply blind obedience.
It does not imply that a woman has to shut up and take it.
It does not imply a military type relationship where the inferior-ranked person has to "stand down" when a superior-ranked person barks commands.
The idea of submission does not mean that a wife has to "take" anything.
Not verbal abuse.
Not physical abuse.
Not mean-spirited words and actions.
Not neglect.
Not a refusal to love her.
Not anything that crushes her body nor spirit.
Submission from a wife means that she openly and gladly reveres and respects and supports a man who is the Godly spiritual leader of their home.
Submission has nothing to do with a woman cowering in any way or fashion under any conditions that belittle her nor harm her or her children.
Submission is a powerful characterization of a Godly wife.
It means that a woman has enough spiritual marrow in her backbone to offer herself to her husband as the church does to Christ. Shoulders squared back and looking him in the eye with great love and joy to be with him. Proudly complementing her husband with great gifts and talents of her own that God has given her use as God sees fit. Teaching her children, by her own behavior, to respect their father and respect her in like manner. Looking to her husband only and finding in him, alone, a Godly protection, sacrificial love on a daily basis as Christ loved the church, and mutual respect.
She doesn't look down at the ground.
She doesn't speak in a timid voice.
She doesn't walk behind her husband.
She doesn't take inappropriate behavior and cry inwardly that he has some sort of "right" and that she can't speak up for herself.
And she certainly doesn't take spousal abuse, in any form, from ANY husband, Christian or not.
If he is putting her body or spirit in harm's way, then GET OUT!!
Get out!
Maybe he can be counseled, redeemed, or helped in some way with medication, salvation, a men's support group, or help from the church. Maybe their relationship can be salvaged or maybe not.
But while he is on a rampage of any kind...
...get out!!!
And she is not to return to living with him until he is safe to live with!
If he is not saved, she can divorce him, but only after she has exhausted every means possible to help redeem him from his behavior. That's my opinion.
If he is a Christian and cannot stop his abusive behavior, then she can live apart from him. If she divorces him, that is between her, God, and Godly counsel from clergy and/or professional Christian counsel.
A submissive wife is a confident, vibrant, happy, humble
stronghold to her marriage...a valuable asset to a Godly man.
A submissive wife does not have to take anything from a husband that harms her in any way.
Submission simply means recognizing someone's leadership and respecting it.
Submission does NOT mean blind acceptance of brutality or harmful incompetence disguised as leadership.
Too many Christian women have suffered and are suffering at this very moment, even while you are reading this post, because of the belief system taught by the church that a submissive wife is to never question anything that her husband does or says. No matter what he does.
Peace-
YSIC
Scarlett O.
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