Why is it no other country is able to deescalate? Why is it understandable for Iran (and any other country we are at odds with) to retaliate against our retaliation to their provocations? Most Americans just want to be left alone. We don't rally and scream death to anyone. We have done more and still do more to help people who seem to hate us.
President Trump, (with guidance from his advisers), ordered a fatal attack on a man who from all reports was directly responsible through the training of insurgents, the supply of weapons and the planning of specific attacks over many years, for the death of upward of six hundred American soldiers. Intelligence reports stated that this man was planning additional attacks on Americans.
After the successful attack on the Iranian General, leaders in Iran threatened retaliation. Why were there no calls for the Iranians to deescalate???
The sad truth is no matter what we do, America is the "Bad Guy". President Trump announced that he had more targets than they did, if he does not retaliate then it will be reported that he has "caved in to Iranian pressure" and "went back on his word". If he does call for more attacks he is a war-mongering bigot.
Many Americans are tired of this whole cycle, with us always backing off. When we do we are rarely if ever lauded for our restraint. Most peace loving Americans don't want war with anyone, but want to see if we respond hard enough will these folks learn to just leave us alone.