oh... and Tim... in regard to "The other is spiritual death. it really is not scriptural. For all the brainy-acks (and I mean that in a good way) on cavlvinist side they absolutely deny the bible in these matters!"
I'm no brainiac, that is for sure, reading Jonathan Edwards will dispel that thought from almost anyone lol!
But I have to say that while you may disagree, we get the doctrine of spiritual death from places like
Eph 2:1-3 esv And you were dead in the trespasses and sins
(2) in which you once walked, following the course of this world, following the prince of the power of the air, the spirit that is now at work in the sons of disobedience (3) among whom we all once lived in the passions of our flesh, carrying out the desires of the body and the mind, and were by nature children of wrath, like the rest of mankind."
Therre it is, in black and white, those not in Christ are "dead in their trespasses and sins".
And we get it from Jesus who said that no man
can, that is no one has the ability to come to Him, unless it is granted by the Father. If everyone had the ability to come, if everyone was spiritually alive, why would Jesus say this?
Joh 6:65 esv And he said, This is why I told you that no one can come to me unless it is granted him by the Father."
I realize this goes against the grain, everyone wants to think that there is some spark of goodness in humanity, but it just isn't so. That this is a "hard saying" today is really no different from what it was in Jesus' own day. For right after He told the disciples that no one can come to Him unless it is granted by the Father, we read;
Joh 6:66 esv After this many of his disciples turned back and no longer walked with him."
People are dead in their trespasses and sins unless God works actively in their heart and causes them to be "born again" or "born from above". No one can "born" themselves the second time any more than they could the first time, and if a person is "born from above" then they are not "born from themselves" ie their decision to pick themselves up by their own boot straps and decide to believe has to have come from outside of themselves. Why? Because savingly believing in God is the most important, the most mementous and spirirtual thing a person can do, yet the Bible says that the unsaved man is of the flesh, dead... and not of the spirit.
Joh 3:5-6 esv Jesus answered, Truly, truly, I say to you, unless one is born of water and the Spirit, he cannot enter the kingdom of God.
(6) That which is born of the flesh is flesh, and that which is born of the Spirit is spirit."
The flesh profits nothing Tim... nothing.. and plainly, savingly believing in Christ Jesus is SOMETHING! And nothing is not a little something. lol
Joh 6:63 esv It is the Spirit who gives life; the flesh is of no avail."
or the NKJV uses the word "profits";
Joh 6:63 NKJV It is the Spirit who gives life; the flesh profits nothing. The words that I speak to you are spirit, and they are life."
If the flesh profits nothing, then it does not profit a little something.
Paul says that the works we do in the flesh bear the fruit of death;
Rom 7:5 esv For while we were living in the flesh, our sinful passions, aroused by the law, were at work in our members to bear fruit for death."
Remember the good tree/ bad tree anaolgy....
If a person is in the flesh, they are slaves to sin, sold out to it....;
Rom 7:14 esv For we know that the law is spiritual, but I am of the flesh, sold under sin.
Paul goes on to detail this spiritual death in greater detail here;
Rom 8:5-9 esv For those who live according to the flesh set their minds on the things of the flesh, but those who live according to the Spirit set their minds on the things of the Spirit.
(6) To set the mind on the flesh
is death, but to set the mind on the Spirit is life and peace.
(7) For the mind that is set on the flesh is hostile to God, for
it does not submit to God's law; indeed,
it cannot.
(8) Those who are in the flesh
cannot please God.
(9) You, however, are not in the flesh but in the Spirit, if in fact the Spirit of God dwells in you. Anyone who does not have the Spirit of Christ does not belong to him."
Those in the flesh cannot please God. And plainly, coming to God... believing savingly... is pleasing to God!
Anyway, that is just a short summary of the "why" behind the doctrine of total depravity. You can read much more about it in greater detail if you like. I would be glad to point you to some other resources that deal witht he subject, at the very least, you too will be informed and will not be able to say that it's not biblical. Indeed, it is.
blessings,
Ken