Anytime you see a Calvinist citing Greek grammar in supposed support of Calvinism, take it with a grain of salt. Nearly 100% of the time the grammar suggests no such assertion.
Case in point, 2 Peter 3:9 is claimed to be directed toward the elect. But as anyone who simply reads it knows, God is long suffering toward us believers, to provide us with the opportunity to spread the gospel toward the lost because He is unwilling that any (of the lost) should perish but all (of the lost) should come to repentance. Thus the antecedent of "all" is any.
Certainly you are making some good points there.
3 This second epistle, beloved, I now write unto you; in both which I stir up your pure minds by way of remembrance:
2 That ye may be mindful of the words which were spoken before by the holy prophets, and of the commandment of us the apostles of the Lord and Saviour:
3 Knowing this first, that there shall come in the last days scoffers, walking after their own lusts,
Both the saved and the lost in that text so far sadly for Calvinism
4 And saying,
Where is the promise of his coming? for since the fathers fell asleep, all things continue as they were from the beginning of the creation.
5 For this they willingly are ignorant of, that by the word of God the heavens were of old, and the earth standing out of the water and in the water:
6
Whereby the world that then was, being overflowed with water, perished:
Here again - the entire world was engulfed in water at the flood the wicked are certainly not being dismissed from the text.
7 But
the heavens and the earth, which are now, by the same word are kept in store, reserved unto fire against the day of judgment and perdition of ungodly men.
8 But, beloved, be not ignorant of this one thing, that one day is with the Lord as a thousand years, and a thousand years as one day.
The subject is the coming of Christ and the future judgment - and the wicked are not be excluded from the text - as much as Calvinism may have hoped we could ignore them at this point.
9 The Lord is not
slack concerning his promise, as some men count slackness; but is longsuffering to us-ward,
not willing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance.
The promise in this case is the world shattering "second coming' event that "was promised" and that Peter says has special application to the wicked since it is the day of executing judgment on the wicked living at the end of the world.
To bend and wrench this text ("
God is not willing for ANY to perish but for ALL to come to repentance" into saying that "God only wants the saved saints already converted at the time of the writing of this letter - and none of the lost world who would one day in the future become saved" is to limit the text beyond all reason.
To try to weave into a Calvinist "well it is the saved saints at the time Paul is writing and then all the lost who would one day be saved" - is going to far just to eisegete Calvinism into the text - since nothing in the text has used that as the meaning or scope or context to that point in time.
in Christ,
Bob