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Church membership question

annsni

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You do not need to be a member of a church to attend a study once in a while. You have made the choice to follow your wife in her desired choice for a church and you need to stay where you are.

But then again, I don't know that you've ever listened to the advice you have received here so you will do what you're going to do.
 

Rolfe

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Fair Warning: You will not like my opinion, but you asked.

Would a elder board or a pastor approve me as a member given that I cannot attend?

If I knew whole story (an important qualifier), I would not vote for you to join my church. There would be a concern about your attitude toward the church's authority and its beliefs. Of course, you would be welcome to attend; but as an elder, I would not want you to have church voting rights or be in a position where you could potentially teach.



Elders at the church do understand my family situation and have themselves advised me to keep the peace and not to go to a different church as my wife.

You have not even joined yet, and you already are kicking against the church? Why would you wish to join when you have been advised against?

Question: Would you be willing to suggest that your pastor be in contact with this other church's pastor to discuss your wish (as in a background check), or would you be embarrassed by what he may tell him about your contentiousness?
 

Rolfe

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Additional Question: Evan, what impression about your commitment to your family do you think that this makes on your Wife and stepson?
 

evangelist6589

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Evan6589 joined his wife's church. They are not Calvinists. They are KJVO and total abstainers of alcohol. According to Evan they don't do evangelism properly since they don't preach repentance enough and don't use the Way of the Master methodologies. I think they don't do contemporary music either. These are all sore points with Evan.

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They are all sore points with scripture!
 

evangelist6589

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John - when you asked people on this board about your fiancee, you were given a LOT of advice to not marry. When you asked about other things, you were given advice that didn't agree with what you preferred to do.

Why do you think anyone's going to give you advice that says yes, those people will allow you to become a "part-time" member of their church?

By the way: the answer is no. The explanation is, if YOU were the pastor, would you accept a person asking to be a part-time member?

Give it some thought. It's time to make a decision. No more wishy-washy trying to have it both ways. Just remember: you chose your wife, knowing full well the differences, and knowing full well the importance of the biblical relationship between husband and wife. Careful with your choice.

Probably correct I am afraid
 

evangelist6589

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The answer is no but you need to ask the right question.

The right question is how should I handle being in this circumstance God has put me in?

The answer is more silence than talking. The answer is patience and prayer not confrontation. The answer is be a loving influence rather than an "in your face" annoyance. These people are not your enemy. Stop treating them like they are. Love them no matter what. Be at peace with them in all situations. Serve God right there faithfully and in unity with that local assembly. You have some areas of growth that needs work and the situation you are in appears to be the tool God wants to use in your life to obtain that growth. When God is done with you there He will move you. You keep trying to get ahead of God and life will only be miserable.

I have never been in your face with anyone. I have just expressed my views in a discussion based Sunday school environment.
 

Revmitchell

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I have never been in your face with anyone. I have just expressed my views in a discussion based Sunday school environment.

I did not say you have been in my face but your overall attitude you have told us about at your church shows you have been in their face.
 

evangelist6589

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What Scripture says that?

Jesus often used the law to convict of sin and so should we.

The rich young ruler, the woman at the well, among others he used the law. He used grace with the humble as he did with Nicodemus, and Zachias the tax collector.
 
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evangelist6589

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Well I understand you sincerely believe that. You and I would disagree what it means to be in someone's face.


I have been against some of their views most of which I keep to myself unless in a situation to give my view such as a Sunday school.
 

InTheLight

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I have been against some of their views most of which I keep to myself unless in a situation to give my view such as a Sunday school.

Wait a minute... You teach Sunday school and when the opportunity comes up, you deliberately teach things contrary to the official theological position of the church you represent?
 

Aaron

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Dude. Stop preaching. Get two jobs. Pay your debts and provide for your family. In other words . . .

. . . be a Christian.

As long as you and your wife are disagreed, you cannot pastor. I don't think pastoring or preaching is your love anyway. I think you just like to talk. Of all the self-willed, arrogant know-it-alls that I have met, I can honestly say you're one of them.
 

Rolfe

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Evan, I will ask again, in case you missed it the first time:
(regarding the church that you wish to join) Why would you wish to join when you have been advised against?

Question: Would you be willing to suggest that your pastor be in contact with this other church's pastor to discuss your wish (as in a background check), or would you be embarrassed by what he may tell him about your contentiousness?
 
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