"For those who feel that birth control is wrong - I have to ask you - do you think God is so small and unpowerful that He cannot cause you to conceive a child He desires to live despite your use of birthcontrol?"
TexasSky, I was thinking the same thing when I was reading these posts.
My parents tried not to have me. Back back in August 1962, I suppose (july, actually?) my parents were already adjusting to one baby that was 3 months old and my mother didn't want to have another child any time soon. The birth control pill was just coming out and she went to the doctor to get a RX, but the doctor told her it hadn't been on the market long enough for him to justify writing one (didn't know the side-effects, effectiveness, etc). He told her to go with the rhythm method, and explained it to her using a calendar.
I won't leave you in suspense...I happened, anyway. She cried when she found out she was pregnant with me. Abortion wasn't an option back then. Although I have felt special enough that God wanted me on this earth in spite of their efforts, I have felt the least loved of their five kids. Before I knew about this, I wondered many times what I did wrong. I don't want to go into specifics, but I do want to make this point that some people seem to miss:
If a couple does NOT want to have more children, for HEAVEN'S SAKE...DON"T TRY TO GUILT THEM INTO HAVING MORE!!! There will be a great possibility that they will be unloved and uncared for, anyway. They may be emotionally abandoned, and may suffer many emotional issues that they may not be able to seek professional help for because many Christians like to preach against psychiatrists, too.
I've seen it mentioned that it's ok to control the number of children if there are health problems, but we must rely on God if the issue is money. God can't heal? Why can God provide money, but He can't heal? Perhaps it's because money comes and goes but a woman has only one life to spare and if it's lost during childbirth, the child grows up without a mother? Wouldn't that be REALLY stepping out of faith, then?
I'm not advocating that sick mothers should be fruitful and multiply regardless. I'm just giving you something to ponder.
OK, now the flip side: I used a berrier method to prevent a child because we were dirt poor. The Lord seemed to have said, "Let me worry about the money...Here's your beautiful baby girl!". We love her to death. The Lord has supplied all our needs and if she was never born, our son would be an only child because we never would have seemed to be wealthy enough to have a second child.
I wanted my girl to know what happened when she was old enough to understand...when I gave her "the talk". I wanted her to know that it was like a house...how we would have loved to have a very nice house, but it was too expensive to pay for, we thought. But, the Lord gave us a beautiful baby girl and because she was born, we've learned to trust in Him more. We never regretted having her...but we tried to avoid the situation. I wanted her to feel special like I felt...that even though we tried not to have an expense, that the Lord saw her to be so special that He wanted her on Earth for a reason.
I didn't want her to go through what I went through. I wanted her to know we never rejected her...we were happy when we found out I was pregnant...scared, but happy. The doctors/nurses tried to talk me into an abortion, but I never entertained the thought...not for a second.
It's not our job to decide whether someone else should have more children. Are we going to help them financially if they throw away the contraceptives and later find themselves in the poorhouse? Are we going to babysit them when the mother knew all along she couldn't emotionally handle more kids?
It's not our responsibility to raise someone else's kids, and it's not our responsibility to decide for them whether or not they should have more kids.
If they want more kids, let the Lord decide if they're a burden to society. God will provide. Children would be blessed to be born into a home with parents who love them and depend on the Lord to supply their needs.