Actually God can not force anyone to do anything as it was God who determined NOT to. He can not go against his nature anymore than He can or would go against His own decree.
When did God determine not to?
What Bible do you have to support this claim that it would be against his nature to do so?
While I agree with most everything in the above, you seem to forget the fact that in order for God to regenerate a persons heart (according to the reformed view) He has to, against their choice and desire, make them to be willing to want His salvation -
It is NOT against their will if they are made willing. It is therefore not force (though God is perfectly free to force men to do whatever he wants).
God does not compel them to go 'gainst their will he just makes them willing to go. - The Hornet Song
A crude illustration of this would be like love at first sight.
A man may not be willing to "go shopping". But he meets a girl and falls in love and she wants to go shopping- now he WANTS to because his heart has been changed.
She does not FORCE him. Her beauty changed his heart- he is perfectly willing.
ie.. He has to change their nature against their desire, will and/or choice.
He doesn't change their desires against their desires- he doesn't run it by them for them to reject the notion.
Just like the beautiful girl does not have a meeting with the man and ask if it would be ok with him if her beauty would make him fall in love with her.
She just comes by one day, he is stricken and given a new heart and he is willing to do things he would never have been willing to do had his heart not been overcome with her beauty.
There is no forcing here.
Thus you do not have God orchestrating events to cause them to be willing, you have God forcing some of them to obey and orchestrating others to continue on their way.
No more than a beautiful girl whose beauty causes the young man to fall in love with her FORCES him to go shopping. She does not put him in an arm-lock and ram him headfirst into Old Navy. He follows her willingly.
No matter how one desires to slice it, God has to force Himself on some. That is not grace that is something entirely different.
As I have shown it is not forcing- BUT you need to prove this supposition that FORCE eradicates grace. It does not.
If a lady is trapped in a burning building and will not leave without her dog- a building she set on fire because of her carelessness- and a fireman scoops her up against her will and rescues her, is it not grace?
Sure it is. Their is nothing about force that eradicates grace.
But as I said, God does not generally FORCE people to do things against their will.
However, IF this was how God intended His salvation to be, I would have NO issue with it, but as God has revealed scripture to me it does not speak to this and thus I can not agree with it.
I am glad to hear that. What Scripture do you have that says that God CANNOT force anyone to do things because it is against his nature?