If salvation is bestowed in response to a decision to believe by a person independent of God's special and particular prompting then God is not acting in grace but rather recognizing and rewarding merit.
Scott, I could not agree more with that statement. The phrase, "independent of God's special and particular prompting" makes all of the difference. There is no recognizing and rewarding of merit if grace is offered to all men (Hitler the same as my own dear departed mother).
2 Th 2:13 But we are bound to give thanks alway to God for you, brethren beloved of the Lord, because God hath from the beginning chosen you to salvation through sanctification of the Spirit and belief of the truth:
God chooses us through our believing the truth, we do not believe through His choosing.
Heb 11:6 But without faith it is impossible to please him: for he that cometh to God must believe that he is, and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him.
Those who come to God MUST believe or they cannot come to Him.
1 Ti 1:16 Howbeit for this cause I obtained mercy, that in me first Jesus Christ might shew forth all longsuffering, for a pattern to them which should hereafter believe on him to life everlasting.
Believe on Him TO life everlasting. Not life everlasting TO believe on Him. This is the pattern throughout the New Testament.
2 Th 2:10 And with all deceivableness of unrighteousness in them that perish; because they received not the love of the truth, that they might be saved.
2 Th 2:11 And for this cause God shall send them strong delusion, that they should believe a lie:
2 Th 2:12 That they all might be damned who believed not the truth, but had pleasure in unrighteousness.
Not receiving the truth is the reason they are not saved and not believing is the reason they are damned.
Gal 3:22 But the scripture hath concluded all under sin, that the promise by faith of Jesus Christ might be given to them that believe.
Gal 3:23 But before faith came, we were kept under the law, shut up unto the faith which should afterwards be revealed.
Gal 3:24 Wherefore the law was our schoolmaster to bring us unto Christ, that we might be justified by faith.
Gal 3:25 But after that faith is come, we are no longer under a schoolmaster.
Gal 3:26 For ye are all the children of God by faith in Christ Jesus.
God tells us His "timeline" and it is not outside of the space-time continum. BEFORE faith came we were lost, AFTER faith came we are not. Regeneration does not initiate faith, faith is the focal point through which God initiates regeneration.
1 Co 1:21 For after that in the wisdom of God the world by wisdom knew not God, it pleased God by the foolishness of preaching to save them that believe.
He saves them that believe.
Rom 10:9 That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved.
Rom 10:10 For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.
The Bible speaks often about getting right with God and in the vast majority of times it is clearly given in an order of belief first and then salvation. It does not seem reasonable for a few verses to be allowed to alter the meaning of so many others.
Act 16:31 And they said, Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved, and thy house.
I know you believe these verses, I would never claim that you don't. However, I find it impossible to understand HOW anyone could read these verses and many, many more like them and conclude that regeneration could take place before belief.
Joh 20:31 But these are written, that ye might believe that Jesus is the Christ, the Son of God; and that believing ye might have life through his name.