I've sent you a private message on this.
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I'm taking the spiritual lead in my family
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I'm gonna be very pointed here, John.
If there were only 1 person here from whom you receive advice, you owe it to yourself to make Don that person.
I've seen him display a patience toward you that can only be spurred on by the love of Christ.
If and when I want advice I'd go to..... Well I won't mention their names for my critics will bother them because they give me advice.
Never reject advice simply because you do not like the person giving it. Look at the advice. Roll it around in your head. Examine it from all sides. Do not let your ego get in the way of taking advice. Do not let your ego get in the way of rejecting advice. Advice is like learning, sometimes we realize we must adopt the advice or the idea we just read, even if it makes us give up long held, long loved ideas.
Blessings.
It takes character and integrity to publicly admit such a thing.
We all know you're hurting right now, and it's coloring your reactions to your situation, and how you post. Praying for you.
You need to show more of this Christ Like Love James. I think we all do.
Please stop posting these personal things and get right with your wife.
Evan - This is a much deeper issue than what church you are attending. You need to get some counseling with your wife. You need to work to restore your marriage to what God wants it to be - a sacrificial love towards one another. I believe that has been lacking on both of your parts. I do understand the frustration of having a spouse that doesn't agree with something we feel strongly about but I've found the best solution to that situation is to let go, put it in God's hands and commit myself to faithful prayer. At times God has changed MY heart and at times He's changed my husband's heart but each time he has been faithful to answer that prayer. I would suggest you do the same and again, get some counseling.
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Name the animal on my mind.
We tried that but it does not seem to work. I suggest we see a more qualified biblical counselor but she insists on only seeing the pastor at the IFB church. So I am in a tough spot.
I am new here so I don't think that I have a complete understanding of this whole situation but I can reference what scripture says about divorce. Matthew 19:9 And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery. There is clear instruction here that the only Biblical reason for divorce is due to unfaithfulness in the marriage.
Another scripture that comes to mind is Ephesians 5:25. Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her
Husbands are called to love their wives as Christ loves the church. The church has many times acted in a manner that is not pleasing to Christ but He has not abandoned us. I would encourage you to follow His example in this area of your life regardless of what your wife has or will do.
Your lack of maturity is quite evident.
I was giving you sound advice.
You are engaging in gossip about your wife. It makes no difference whether you know us face-to-face.
Every time you bring up negative things in your marriage --you tear her down. If you would devote a fraction of the energy you expend on the BB with your wife instead --you would be in a much better place spiritually.
Well spoken thanks.
May I ask,what pastor married you two?
He was my own pastor from the past. However he is in Loveland.
Brother Evan...please take what I post in not a malicious fashion. Brother Rippon gave you some solid advice about not posting things about your wife in a public forum and spending more time focusing on her.
Focus your time and effort to fulfill her needs, what you can do to smoothe out the bumps in the road, how you can be a better husband, how to be more attentative to her desires, &c. All marriages have rough patches as we are talking about one man and one woman living under one roof, both with different desires, ideas, wants, needs, &c. My wife and I have been married for 11+ years and there are times I want to put her over my knees and spank her, and there are times she'd like to gouge my eyes out. We are both human. Yet, I don't post on here every time we disagree. Some things are best left private and with closest friends, family, church Brothers and Sisters being the only ones in the know.
For you to post about your marriage as much as you have, it appears to be on very shaky ground. The only biblical recourse for divorce is adultery...though I believe I can make a case for divorce if one is being abused or the other spouse has become an addict and after many attempts to help get them sober have failed...but that is another subject altogether.
But you are doing her and yourself no favors by going this route. The best advice I can give you is if you want advice about you marriage on here, pick out 3-5 ppl on here you trust and engage all of them in a PM.
But both of you are in my prayers.
Focus your time and effort to fulfill her needs, what you can do to smoothe out the bumps in the road, how you can be a better husband, how to be more attentative to her desires, &c. All marriages have rough patches as we are talking about one man and one woman living under one roof, both with different desires, ideas, wants, needs, &c. My wife and I have been married for 11+ years and there are times I want to put her over my knees and spank her, and there are times she'd like to gouge my eyes out. We are both human. Yet, I don't post on here every time we disagree. Some things are best left private and with closest friends, family, church Brothers and Sisters being the only ones in the know.
For you to post about your marriage as much as you have, it appears to be on very shaky ground. The only biblical recourse for divorce is adultery...though I believe I can make a case for divorce if one is being abused or the other spouse has become an addict and after many attempts to help get them sober have failed...but that is another subject altogether.
But you are doing her and yourself no favors by going this route. The best advice I can give you is if you want advice about you marriage on here, pick out 3-5 ppl on here you trust and engage all of them in a PM.
But both of you are in my prayers.
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