1 Peter 3
8To sum up, all of you be harmonious, sympathetic, brotherly, kindhearted, and humble in spirit;
9not returning evil for evil or insult for insult, but giving a blessing instead; for you were called for the very purpose that you might inherit a blessing.
She is a victim too. Could have been brought up abusively. You might be the closest thing to a parent she has in her life. We do evil things motivated by fear and ignorance.
Praying for her to drop dead only makes you start to submit to the same evil she is under already.
You can't say for sure you would do better in her shoes under her conditions.
The objective is always to "DESTROY the Evil" But it means freeing the sinner from their sin.
Try being kind, get walked all over even, but safe-guard the helpless.
Now if she is your BOSS, yes those get picked out specifically from the 9 layer of hell to sharpen you up. jk
Everyone got pain, just some folks better at hiding it than others.
I guarantee, PROMISE, if you knew her life story you'd be like "OH ......that's why", and there would not be a anger around to fault her, you'd take a more approach of pity.
If you ever want a good indicator how much you love God, its as much as that person you hate most.
Matthew 25
40“The King will answer and say to them, ‘Truly I say to you, to the extent that you did it to one of these brothers of Mine,
even the least
of them, you did it to Me.’