I understand what you're trying to convey here, but let's take a look at how choices are made, in regards to salvation.
Jesus told a parable that we have all come to know as the "Good Samaritan". He came up to a man who had been beaten and left half-dead. What did he do? Did he ask this man, "May I pick you up, place you on my beast, take you to the inn, pay you room and board"? Or did he simply pick him up and take him to the inn? That is what God does for His children. We were in a dead state of sin, and were unable to make a choice for Christ unless He first unshackled us from the bondage of sin we were in. Then, and only then, were we able to respond to Him in faith, which He gave to us to begin with.
Although this is switching the gears of the argument slightly, I'll just say it is not wise to see a Deterministic view of inability in every parable of the Bible. It causes one to miss the greater points of the parable.
The Good Samaritan wasn't picking up a dead man, he may have been beaten and bruised but He wasn't dead. I have numerous examples of people that have refused medical treatment. The injured man certainly could have refused help.
The parable was about an example of who is our neighbor, and was given to demonstrate how MEN should act towards others, not how God acts in salvation. Moreover, the Good Samaritan hadn't paid ALL OF HIS DEBT, because there was a potential for more to be paid,
"and went to him, and bound up his wounds, pouring in oil and wine, and set him on his own beast, and brought him to an inn, and took care of him. 35 And on the morrow when he departed,
he took out two pence, and gave them to the host, and said unto him, Take care of him;
and whatsoever thou spendest more, when I come again, I will repay thee"
Had this been intended to be a model for salvation, the man's debt would have been paid in full.
Then, let us examine Jonah for a moment. Did he really have a choice to go to Ninevah? When he rebelled, God had him put inside a whale's belly, which, in turn, caused him to repent, and after being reguritated, he went to Ninevah and preached. He did what God told him to do.
Yes, Jonah still had a choice. Of course in this situation it was definitely more of a Hobson's Choice LOL, but Johah's example still is not an appropriate one for evaluation salvation. There are consequences for disobedience to God. Jonah was a prophet, so preaching to others what already what was expected of him. God was chastising Jonah for his disobedience, not trying to demonstrate salvation by a person who was ALREADY ELECTED. Jonah did freely rebel at the risk of putting others at harm and freely offered himself up to avoid the judgment being inflicted on the men of the boat. This was an illustration of God being merciful to all men by the willing sacrifice of a man to spare the lives of others which is why Jesus used it as an example of His death burial and resurrection in the NT. (And I believe Jonah died in that fish, but that's another story!)
Then, Lazarus, when Jesus raised him from the dead. Did he have a choice?
Lazarus was already saved before he died. Plus, you are equating spiritual death with physical death. Physically dead man can't sin so if being spiritually dead is going to be equated with physical death, then one needs to follow the same standards. Thus if spiritual is comparable to physical death, and a physically dead person can't sin, then a spiritually dead person has nothing to be saved from because he's done nothing wrong.
Yet notice that the raising of Lazarus was at the request of his sisters. Jesus wasn't predisposed to raise Lazarus from the dead which would be important to the Calvinist system if this verse were to be a demonstration of salvation.
This was more of a demonstration about Christ's own ability to conquer death, and a picture of the resurrection of just saints and the rapture.
How about the man with the withered hand? Jesus told him to stand forth, and then told him to extend his withered hand. He didn't ask him if it was okay for Him to do, but do it
The man with the withered hand sought out Christ for healing. That's why he went to the synagogue in the first place. In Mark 3 he tells the man to "stand forth". Thus the man in Mark 3 had a choice as to whether to stand forth or not. In verse 5 he was also given the choice to stretch out his hand. If the Calvinist interpretation were correct, and this verse was analogous to salvation, Christ wouldn't require any part of the man's actions to be healed, He would have simply healed him without telling the man to stretch forth his hand.
When Adam was "dead in sin" he not only heard the voice of God but responded to him. Genesis 3:9
In John 6:36, Jesus told those who were dead in sin, 'ye SEE ME, and believe not".
Romans 1 says:
"For the invisible things of him from the creation of the world
are clearly seen,
being understood by the things that are made,
even his eternal power and Godhead;
so that they are without excuse"
And then in Romans 2:14-15 "For when the Gentiles, which have not the law, do by nature the things contained in the law, these, having not the law, are a law unto themselves: , which shew the work of the law written in their hearts, their conscience also bearing witness, and their thoughts the mean while accusing or else excusing one another". Calvinists often resort to 1 Cor 2:14 "for the natural man understand not the things of the Spirit of God, neither can he know them for they are spiritually discerned". This chapter followed Paul's rebuke of human wisdom in chapter one, and was showing that the natural man does not have the market cornered on knowing the things of God that He reveals to His children as they continue to progress in their walk with Him. Eph 3:19, Phil 3:11-13. It is not a reference that demonstrates man has no idea of the consequences of rejecting Christ, or the ability to understand that sin separates Him from God and only the cross can bridge that gap. That is what marks the clear distinction between Romans 1-2 and 1 Corinthians 2.