It is a fallen world. The primary issue still remains in adding anything at all to Gods Grace is to distort its graciousness, it’s very nature as a gift. So if man is free to resist then Gods not free to act because he is bound by man’s freedom which interferes. God is then not Sovereign. If God is to be free to act, man must be bound by the will of God. But in a fallen world, our unfortunate real live condition, Gods Grace had better be irresistible or man’s will can remain forever opposed to God, and the will of the creature overrides the will of the Creator. But that could never happen right?!?
So you agree that God is still sovereign, that's a good place to start. Man actually makes real choices. And I have to conclude that you believe the bible.
So you have to deal with these two verses
How about " not wishing for any to perish but for all to come to repentance" 2Pe 3:9
or how about this one "YOU SHALL LOVE THE LORD YOUR GOD WITH ALL YOUR HEART, AND WITH ALL YOUR SOUL, AND WITH ALL YOUR STRENGTH, AND WITH ALL YOUR MIND; AND YOUR NEIGHBOR AS YOURSELF." Luk_10:27
Did all come to repentance 2Pe 3:9 or did some resist God and do you EFW fulfill Luk 10:27 or does anyone? So the options are 1} man can resist God or 2} God works against He own desires. Which option do you choose?
And this one is really going to give you a bit of trouble
"They built the high places of Baal that are in the valley of Ben-hinnom to cause their sons and their daughters to pass through the fire to Molech, which I had not commanded them nor had it entered My mind that they should do this abomination, to cause Judah to sin. Jer_32:35
Did God make them build the high places of Baal and sacrifice their children to Molech or did they resist the will of God and do it?
So because we do resist God's will does that mean God is not free to act is God not still sovereign?