I know There are difference of opinions and scripture verses to support either side of the argument.
No, actually there are no verses that support loss of salvation, but wrested proof-texts taken completely out of the context of the passages they are found in.
An example of this would be Hebrews 10:26-27, which unfortunately, is taught to refer to Christians losing their salvation, when that is not the case at all.
In view are those who have not been saved because they are rejecting Christ, His Sacrifice, His Covenant, and the ministry of the Comforter.
Take a look at who those in view are contrasted with:
Hebrews 10:26-29
King James Version (KJV)
26 For if we sin wilfully after that we have received the knowledge of the truth, there remaineth no more sacrifice for sins,
27 But a certain fearful looking for of judgment and fiery indignation, which shall devour the adversaries.
28 He that despised Moses' law died without mercy under two or three witnesses:
29 Of how much sorer punishment, suppose ye, shall he be thought worthy, who hath trodden under foot the Son of God, and hath counted the blood of the covenant, wherewith he was sanctified, an unholy thing, and hath done despite unto the Spirit of grace?
The wilful sin is described in v.29, and the contrast is made with those who rejected the Covenant of Law (Moses' Law), not with Christians who do not willfully sin.
He is saying "Those who rejected the Covenant of Law were put to death (and this was physical death), how much worse will it be for those who reject Christ, His Sacrifice, His Covenant, and the Spirit of Grace?"
Again, Hebrews is specific to the Hebrew People, and what the Writer does is exhort them to embrace Christ. In Hebrews 6:1 (which is usually ignored by the L.O.S.T.) he exhorts them to...go on unto Perfection, which again, speaks of completion in Christ, contrasted with the First Principles of the Oracles of God, or in other words, the ABCs of the Doctrine of Christ as found in the Hebrew Scriptures. They are told not to lay again the foundational principles, but to go on unto perfection, or, completion.
But that is another issue that deserves full attention, so that is all I will say about that passage at this time. But we will inevitably get to it in a discussion of Eternal Security, because it is another passage wrested by the L.O.S.T.
Don't really know what to do other than pray for God's understanding.
That's a good plan:
James 1:5
King James Version (KJV)
5 If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him.
God will give us understanding if we ask of Him, and He does that through our time spent with Him in the Word of God.
When I was still a fairly new Christian Hebrews intimidated me out of all Books of the Bible. I then heard a preacher say, "Before I try to teach out of any Book, I will sit down and read it 50 times." So I thought, "I'll try that with Hebrews," and before I had gotten through it ten times it began to make sense to me. So familiarity with a broader base of Scripture is necessary to put all the parts together. As I said, Scripture is the best commentary on Scripture, so it is in Scripture we must devote our time. Commentaries are helpful at times, but it is just my opinion God will teach us better if we go straight to Him with a plea for understanding, and, while it might be the sweat of our brows, lol, God if faithful to reward diligent study.
Would love to hear from anyone that can show me scripture that says we are saved sealed by Christ and nothing will remove that sealed, Not even ourselves.
Probably the thing that troubles you most, Lcrider, is exposure to poor teaching, where the L.O.S.T. may have used proof texts out of context to teach loss of salvation. So there is a two-fold process of understanding Eternal Security, first, you must come to understand the positive statements of Eternal Security in Scripture, and secondly, you must understand why the L.O.S.T. are in error by teaching loss of salvation.
It's going to take work, and as I said, only God can bring you peace on this subject, because we cannot transfer our understandings one to another. But if you are willing to put a little work in, I'd be glad to show you why we can fully trust Jesus Christ with our eternal destinies.
God bless.