Featured Separation in marriage

How about you either tell us the real story or just drop this subject all together?

You are being even stranger than normal.

 

John - YOU asked for advice. YOU expected advice based on only the information YOU provided.

How dare YOU get angry for getting what YOU asked for!

 

This is the least of your problems, but what is the strange attraction that you have for your pervasive use of "whom" instead of who?

 

Did you not judge his Wife to be the fully responsible one without knowing the full story?

Why do you start threads asking for advice if nearly every time you do you are unhappy with what is offered?

 

'Something's a half-bubble off plumb.' Jessie Duke

 

Love it! I will definitely use it.

 

None of us are named Ray Comfort?

 

Uncle Jessie stated that on an episode of the Dukes of Hazzard once. For some reason, that saying has always stuck with me. He also once said, 'Jessie, if brains was leather, you couldn't saddle a flea.' He was talking disgustedly to himself about something I do not remember.

But back to the OP, Evangelist, you have been given some very sound advice. Please heed it.

 

Change your name?

 

As JonC has noted you are not a person to be giving your "cousin" advice.
Beside what he has mentioned there is also the fact that in the last 2 months you have publicly bad mouthed your wife (not very loving ) had inappropriate conversation with another woman behind your wife's back ( playing with fire) thought about giving a gift to said women even after your wife made it clear that she was upset about how far your relationship with this woman had progressed, and now are no longer going to the same church as your wife (not being the spiritual leader).
Get your own family in order before you even think about helping your "cousin".

 

Okay, I have to note: your post was unnecessary. John already admitted JonC had a point. I'm not necessarily defending John; you'll note that on page 1 of this thread, I said in my own way what John is now agreeing to. But you didn't need to come along and pick at it. Remember Galatians 6:1 (and I have to be honest and admit, that goes for me more than anyone else).

 

the key to this would be IF the couple has abuse/adultary going on, as those to me are biblical grounds to have a seperation in order to have things worked through and out!

 

I was going to answer your OP earlier but waited to seek the advice of another and her opinion I value greatly... I see things one way and my wife sees them in a way sometimes I hadn't considered at the time. We Adam men our nature is to fix it but the Eve nature of our bride we are commanded to protect is relationship. Her comments are if you look to the 3rd chapter of Genesis where was Adam when Eve met the serpent?... Where was her protector?... If she was bone of his bone and flesh of his flesh and told to cleave to her where was he?... There was the first separation and look what happened... Now back to your cousins situation if as she see it and I related to her the whole story you do not grow closer to each other with separation... To her the pastor in this story is wrong and he needs to seek the counsel of someone who can lead both of them to a closer relationship to God... Maybe God in his mercy needs to show one or the other what love really is... Adam and Eve how much do you really love each other?... My wife last year was diagnosed with breast cancer and has just finished her chemotherapy and is soon to start radiation and her cancer is gone and it was a trying time for both of us. We are believers and she just commented the other day how she doesn't understand how any woman though men also get breast cancer could go through this trial without a belief in God... Our faith gets stronger and stronger every day. I'm studying the trials of the children of Israel and when God wanted to get their attention he sent them affliction... When they cried out to God he delivered them... Maybe your cousin and his wife need some affliction and then you will really see how strong their love is!... That is our advice... I also want to acknowledge the other Sisters in the Lord on here that see things in a different light then the Adam brethren... They bring balance to the board... Men love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself for it... Brother Glen and his wife Pam