Many times the "pejorative label' of synergist is used to imply that "folks like me" think that we some how earn or merit the Grace of God.
When you advance the discussion to the theologies involved, and not the individuals, the terms become vitally important. Synergism, as a theological system, does teach that man cooperates with God in salvation. I have been excoriated on this board for having the temerity to suggest that Synergistic theology falls into one of two systems, Semi-Pelaganism or Arminianism. The two systems are kissing cousins. The easiest way to point out the difference between Semi-Pelagianism and Arminianism is to look at their view of sin. Semi-Pelagianism rejects original sin. The fall of Adam is not binding upon all mankind as far as guilt from sin. Each man is born as a tabula rasa, a blank slate. According to Semi-Pelagianism, man can live a life without sin and therefore merit salvation apart from Christ. This is true according to Semi-Pelagianism in the abstract. In reality even the most ardent Semi-Pelagians, like Cassian, believed all men sinned, although he still denied original sin. Arminianism teaches that Adam's sin did result in The Fall, but only that man has a propensity to sin. Like Semi-Pelagianism, Arminianism denies original sin. Instead of all men being guilty of sin, all men have received a sin nature. But this sin nature does not result in being guilty of sin. It is only a disposition towards sin. Prevenient grace allows man to resist this disposition and not sin. Even if a person does sin prevenient grace allows them to seek God's forgiveness without any work of the Spirit (regeneration) first having to take place. If more Synergists were honest (such as yourself) they would not bristle at the terms, even if they do not represent 100% of what they believe. Calvinism does not represent 100% of what Mongergistic Baptists believe, but it is accurate when describing soteriological beliefs.