Maybe if you actually did what God tells us in the Great commission you might be blessed to be the means in which God draws the elect to Himself. As long as you are saying that making disciples is not what you are commanded to do even though that is what is clearly commanded in the Great Commission it is no surprise that you have never been blessed to be the means in which God draws the elect to Himself. Hiding behind Calvinism is a copout out in this case.
18 And Jesus came and said to them,“All authority inin heaven and on earth has been given to me.
19 Go therefore and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit,
20 teaching them to observe all that I have commanded you. And behold, I am with you always, to the end of the age.”
Matt 28:18-20
The Great Commission is not a passive thing, and for you to say that it is, makes you no better then the hyper-calvinist who won't preach the gospel because God will save them anyways.
I eagerly await to see what animal i get to add to my collection