Hello Tim.
calvinst logic so far:
man does have choice, it is either hell or......hell.
By predestination we mean the eternal decree of God, by which he determined with himself whatever he wished to happen with regard to every man. All are not created on equal terms, but some are preordained to eternal life, others to eternal damnation; and, accordingly, as each has been created for one or other of these ends, we say that he has been predestinated to life or to death. (John Calvin Institutes of the Christian Religion Book 3 chapter 21:5.)
There is no choice as our final destiny was decided in eternity and was not based on sin but on the Sovereign choice of The Sovereign Lord or Despot. Rom 9:11-13 Yet, before the twins were born or had done anything good or bad..."Jacob I loved, but Esau I hated."
Man is totally unable to respond to God, so God hardens, blinds or speaks in parables so man may not be saved.
Another contradiction I see. Jesus hides His words so some cannot understand Him you say? ...but to others I speak in parables, so that, " `though seeing, they may not see; though hearing, they may not understand.' Lk 8:10. I don't see how that helps you.

He does not give light to some but speaks in parables so, although they hear His words they cannot grasp the meaning.
Man accepting a gift has done the work by recieving it making there "no such thing as a gift".
JN 6:28
Then they asked him, "What must we do to do the works God requires?" 29 Jesus answered, "The work of God is this: to believe in the one he has sent."
Is faith a work? If you say no then why did Jesus call it such?
God can only be soveriegn if we feel He has "acted" in a soveriegn way. Allowing man choice is not sovereignly God so please act accordingly.
For one that has a problem with the word 'election' it comes as no surprise to see you are having a problem with the word 'Sovereignty'.
The bible teaches that it is easier for a camel to pass through the eye of a needle than a rich man too enter the kingdom of God.
It does. But as He also says, "With man this is impossible." Lk 18:27. People, even the disciples, were under the illusion that a rich man was blessed by God. By the way, is it possible for a camel to pass through the eye of a needle pray tell me.

Yes? Then that is easier than a rich man getting into Heaven. It is impossible with men.
But God in not respector of persons!
It says the Wife must respect her Husband, it says the Husband must love His Wife.
What's that got to do with anything? He respects Jesus doesn't He? He has respect for the Holy Spirit hasn't He? Maybe you had better revise that particular verse?
God calls to all, draws all and desires that none should perish, however He will not offer His grace too all.
Please give me the scripture where God say He does not desire any to perish.

A bit slippery.
A spiritually dead person cannot understand or speak to God, yet the first spiritually dead people did just that.
Are you saying God cannot communicate with His creatures? That's what you are saying isn't it? You have your eye on man instead of God. Did God not talk with the Jews and did He not tell some of them they were the Devil's brood? Did they understand?
Bottom line is that as a calvinist I am selected by God while the majority goes to hell. I am special. And dog gone it, I like myself! LOL
I do like myself, God loves me. He called me to be His son and to be with Him forever. What is there not to like about me? I am special, Christ died for me personally. I am loved by the Lord God Almighty and a partaker of divine nature and part of a chosen nation to be a Royal Priesthood. That's me that is.

Am I to be ashamed of who I am? I'm The King's Son.
majority goes to hell REV 7:9 After this I looked and
there before me was a great multitude that no one could count, from every nation, tribe, people and language, standing before the throne and in front of the Lamb. They were wearing white robes and were holding palm branches in their hands. 10 And they cried out in a loud voice:
"Salvation belongs to our God,
who sits on the throne,
and to the Lamb."
john.