We'll try again:
For noncalvinists: What role did you play in your first birth?
I did not play any role in my first birth, but my two parents did.
Likewise, it takes two to be born again. My spirit must be joined to the Holy Spirit to be born again.
1 Cor 6:16 What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh.
17 But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit.
Here Paul is telling believers to flee fornication. Then Paul explains the mystery that two joined together become one. This is why God said a man shall be joined to his wife and they shall become one flesh.
And that is easily seen. I am a product of my two parents coming together, and so are you. Yet I am not my parents, I am an individual.
It is the same in the spiritual. When we trust Jesus Christ, our spirit is joined to the Holy Spirit and they become one spirit. That one spirit is the new birth, it is a new person, a new creation, a new individual. You are not the old man anymore, you are a new man, created in Christ Jesus.
So, just as the physical birth, it takes two to make the new spiritual birth. We are now married to Jesus, we are ONE with him, a new creation.
Rom 7:4 Wherefore, my brethren, ye also are become dead to the law by the body of Christ;
that ye should be married to another, even to him who is raised from the dead, that we should bring forth fruit unto God.
We died to the law when we trusted Jesus, and now we are married to Jesus. We have become ONE.
It takes TWO to tango, and it takes TWO to give birth.