First of all - you were perfectly charitable and pleasant. I didn't find any rudeness ion your post at all.Please forgive my apparent rudeness, but I get passionate about doctrine.
I intended no insult.
If you don't like the way I'm emphasizing my points, simply say so.
I bold text the things I want the reader to focus on.
As for misunderstanding the Catholic position,
I'm very familiar with "Wesleyan Arminianism", and I don't see Roman Catholic "Molinism" deviating all that much from it.
Both teach that man cooperates with God in gaining eternal life.
I don't believe I am misunderstanding any of it.
In "Wesleyanism" / "Traditionalism" what you have described is called "Prevenient Grace".
I do not see it taught anywhere in Scripture.
Perhaps you could point out to me where you see it taught.
I disagree.
Faith is a gift from God ( Ephesians 2:8 ), authored and finished by Jesus Christ Himself ( Hebrews 12:2 ).
It is the evidence ( Hebrews 11:1 ) of the believer's gift of grace, not the means by which they gain eternal life.
May God bless you.
As for the rest - It's purely Biblical teaching.
When Christ was in Jerusalem and was rebuking the pharisees - he exclaimed:
Matt. 23:37
“Jerusalem, Jerusalem, you who kill the prophets and stone those sent to you, how often I have longed to gather your children together, as a hen gathers her chicks under her wings, and you were not willing.
This shows that their lack of cooperation with God's grace was the problem - NOT that God didn't will their coming to Him.
In Acts 7:51, we read:
"You stiff-necked people, uncircumcised in heart and ears, you always resist the Holy Spirit. As your fathers did, so do you."
Again - the problem with with the lack of cooperation - not God's will,
In 1 Cor. 3:9, Paul calls us "co-workers" (sunergos) with God (see 2 Cor. 6:1).
Romans 8:28 shows God working WITH us . . .
"We know that in everything God works for good with (sunergei eis agathon) those who love him, who are called according to his purpose."
Finally - a gist cannot be forced on somebody. their response is necessary for that gift to be given.
The idea that God "gives" us a "free" gift that we have NO choice of refusing is simply anti-Biblical . . .