I am certainly not doubting you. I'm just saying I've never heard a professed Calvinist express such a view.
I still maintain that election is not salvation, but unto salvation. And the doctrine comprehends all the means God has ordained to accomplish the salvation of the elect. That includes the preaching of the gospel, the hearing of the gospel, repentance and faith on the part of the lost sinner.
You are exactly correct. Those who fight the Biblical doctrine of election attempt to make it non-personal "fatalistic determination" rather than the personal Divine determination to save a portion of fallen God hating humanity in spite of themselves and what what they deserve.
Those who fight against the Biblical doctrine of election distort it by claiming election is salvation and then make their arguments based upon that perverted assumption. They distort it by asserting that God either coerces the elect to be saved or denies salvation to the non-elect giving them no choice. They distort it by claiming that it makes God unjust or respecter of persons when both charges are manifestly false.
I used to be right where they are, using the same arguments and nobody could convince me otherwise! Nobody but God. I was reading the book of John in order to get ammunition against unconditional election and The Holy Spirit used it to break my resistance down - the truth just jumped out from the very pages of Scripture that I was seeking to find ammunition against that doctrine.
HP cannot see it and will never see it unless God opens his eyes and arguing with him is vain. I can understand because I frustrated professors and friends who tried to teach me the truth of election and would have continued to do so but for God. Now HP will deride my personal testimony as a product of demonic influence rather than the Holy Spirit but read these texts carefully:
Gal. 1:15
But when it pleased God, who separated me from my mother’s womb, and called me by his grace,
16 To reveal his Son in me, that I might preach him among the heathen; immediately I conferred not with flesh and blood:
1. When it pleased who?
2. New birth is likened directly to physical birth - did you have anything to do with separating yourself from your mother's womb? Anything at all?
3. Salvation is a REVELATION of Christ NOT TO ME but IN ME.
Jn. 17:2
As thou hast given him power over all flesh, that he should give eternal life to as many as thou hast given him.
1. The Father gave him power over HOW MANY? "all flesh"
2. The Father determined he should give eternal life to HOW MANY? "to as many as thou hast given him"
When did the Father chose and give these to the Son?
Eph. 1:4
According as he hath chosen us in him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and without blame before him in love:
1. When did the Father chose US? - "before the foundation of the world"
2. Where did the Father chose US? - "in him"
3. Why did the Father chose US? - "that we SHOULD BE holy
2 Thes. 2:13 ¶
But we are bound to give thanks alway to God for you, brethren beloved of the Lord, because God hath from the beginning chosen you to salvation through sanctification of the Spirit and belief of the truth:
1. Why does Paul give thanks to God?
2. When did God choose them?
3. What were they chosen TO - "TO salvation"
4. How was salvation obtained? "through sanctification of the Spirit and belief of the truth"
Hence, the time, the people, the purpose and the means of salvation were ordained by God.