As you see, what you believe calvinism to teach is not what everyone believes calvinism to teach.
Calvinism has certain sine qua non that are at issue. Address those. Calvinists differ on some things. You can address those, but don't pretend like you have refuted Calvinism because you argue against something that is not essential to Calvinism.
I don't consider, for instance, me debating those who believe regenerations precedes faith to be setting up "strawmwen" if the argument has been made first.
I don't either. So what you have just done is present a straw man, trying to pick a fight with me over something I don't disagree with you on.
However, what you need to realize is that Calvinism does not require regeneration preceding faith. That's a bit of a technical argument that won't floy well on the BB, but some Calvinists do not hold to regeneration preceding faith. They hold to an effectual call that enables belief that leads to life. Such an effectual call is not universal (that is, not given to all men without exception), it is unilateral (God's choice), and it certainly brings belief.
What's sad is the fact you belittle those who stand up to your position, something very unbecoming of a pastor.
I don't think I have belittled anyone. I have pointed out that on some of these issues, you are simply uninformed and unwilling to listen. If you were a student, you would get a failing grade. That's not belittling. As I told you privately, you have had the opportunity to learn and have refused. As I told you privately, for you to continue as you have is either the result of being untaught and uninformed, or being dishonest and unethical. I choose to believe that you are not dishonest and unethical. Therefore, the only option is for me to believe that you are untaught and uninformed.
For me to tell the truth about what I believe and what other Calvinists believe is not belittling you. You brought it on when you refused to listen and learn. Do you really believe I should stand by and let you misrepresent what I believe? Honestly, I could argue against Calvinism better than you are. And I am a Calvinist.
So again, my plea as always is for you to learn about Calvinism and address actual issues rather than ones you make up or create in your mind. My plea is for you to not misrepresent Calvinism. Is that really too much to ask?