Brian,
You bring up good points. Points that I think require a thoughtful and as you've noted a logical response, I hope this will help.
First let's recap your concerns, if I may:
Mary is the object of the prayer. When we "ask" someone to pray for us, Jesus/God is still the object of the prayer, which is to come. If I ask you to pray for me I say Carson, I am really struggling with (insert issue here) please remember me in your prayers. I don't say to you
"Hail Carson, the Lord is with you, please help me in my need"
What you are obviously referencing is the Rosary. The error you've made is you've not properly identified what Catholics are actually doing in reciting the main prayer of the rosary or what is commonly called the Hail Mary (so called after the opening words)Nor do you identify what the rosary actually is. I'll try to give some insight here.
Your implied premise evidenced in the quote above ("Hail Carson, the Lord is with you, please help me in my need) actually combines two separate expressions into one stand alone address and from that conclude that Mary is the object of the prayer.
Let me see if I can clarify what Catholics actually are doing when we pray the Rosary:
The first part of the prayer or address if you will is actually (and very important and pertinent to our discussion)a
repeating of the
Angel Gabriel's Biblical salutation to Mary; that is "Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with you, blessed are you among women and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus".
By your statement you seem to suggest because the prayer starts with a salutation that Mary then is the object of the prayer. By "object" of the prayer, I can only guess that you mean that only she is to receive or contemplate our needs and then by obvious implication only she is to answer our needs.
That no more makes logical sense than your saying: "Hey Bob, pray for me and my needs" is making Bob the "object" of your request. Whereas you know Bob could only pray or multiply your requests to God.
In the case of the Catholic's repeating the words of the Angel Gabriel it isn't just a greeting but an aknowledgement (and a biblically referenced one at that) of the special singular grace of God in Mary's life.
And while the salutation is a special honoring of Mary (remember "all generations shall call me blessed") That is still not the request part of the prayer. The address or prayer is two parts consisting of
1.) A rememberance of the singular grace of God to Mary evidenced in the Biblical salutation of the Angel Gabriel. (Something God would highly approve of as it is honoring what God ordained as proper in His plan of Salvation)
and,
2.) A request for prayer from Mary (something we do while aknowledging Mary's special role )
It is now in this second part of the "Hail Mary" that it becomes a request made from us to a most righteous saint (a term I will further expound upon) to pray for our needs to God Himself.
It is then obvious Who the object is, as Mary could only "pray" to God, just as Bob could only pray to God (yet in what Catholics believe as being a more efficacious manner, again something I will expound upon).
These words of the second part are specifically, "Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners now and at the hour of our death. Amen"
Hopefully you will not see a problem with repeating the words of the Angel Gabriel coupled with a prayer request.
I personally, view the recitation of the Angel Gabriels' words as the Biblical reference to the ultimate promises made through "the fruit of" Mary's womb (which is obviously a reference to Jesus). And the second part (the request for prayer) as a personal confirmation or "amen" of the biblical claims expressed and implied in the salutation, as well as the obvious request for prayer.
To continue with your second point, you wrote:
Now here is the thing that I have brought up before and it has not been answered with any logic. I would not ask you to pray for me many times in a row. I wouldn't keep saying, Carson, please pray for me. Carson, please pray for me. If I did that you would slug me by the time I got to the 4th or 5th time
Here is where I think it important to bring up what the Rosary actually is.
By your implication you seem to believe that the Rosary is exclusively a request for prayers. When actually it is a
meditation combined with prayer. The meditation is on the Life of Christ and many of the Gospel relayed biblical events concerning Jesus and His mother, as well as certain realities the Church has confirmed through its' Divine guidance. Each of these events have many deeper spiritual insights and benefits when contemplated and meditated upon.
Your problem with the repetition of prayers should not come from the need of prayer as it is God... : [the following is paraphrased from the following website please visit for the complete presentation,:
http://www.catholicintl.com/epologetics/marymary.asp
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...who has set up prayer as the vehicle to do His bidding, and He will not change it. In James 4:2 it says, "You do not have because you do not ask God." In James 1:5-7 he says, "If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God,...and it will be given to him. But when he asks he must believe and not doubt...That man should not think he will receive anything from the Lord.
In 1 Timothy 2:1-4, St. Paul says, "I urge, then, first of all, that requests, prayers, intercession and thanksgiving be made for everyone -- for kings and all those in authority...This is good, and pleases God our Savior, who wants all men to be saved and to come to the knowledge of the truth." Here, St. Paul says that we must make prayers and intercessions to God for everyone. Why? Because God wants all men to be saved; and prayer is the means through which God will grant them salvation. We can conclude that if we don't pray for them, it will affect whether or not God saves them. Do you see how important intercessory prayer is?
Next is in reference to what I stated about Mary being a "righteous saint" and therefore being a more "efficacious" manner.
In James 5:16-18, Scripture tells us that God will listen to the prayers of a righteous man. He uses the example of the righteous prophet Elijah, who prayed to God that it would not rain. In answer, God withheld the rain for three-and -a-half years.
God listens to people who live righteous lives, and He is moved to answer their prayers. Proverbs 15:8 says, "The prayer of the righteous is His delight," and in 15:29, "He hears the prayer of the righteous."
The more righteously we live, the more God is pleased with us and the more He will answer our prayers. Conversely, if we sin, then God may not hear our prayers. In Isaiah 1:15, God says, "When you spread out your hands in prayer I will hide my eyes from you; even if you offer prayers I will not listen." In 1 Peter 3:7, husbands are warned that if they mistreat their wives, God will not listen to their prayers.
If I know my saintly intercessors are more righteous than I by the mere fact that they have already made it to heaven, and if I know that God listens to the prayers of righteous people, then it is only logical that God will answer the prayers of my heavenly intercessors, perhaps more often than He will answer me.
Mary is one of those people who is more righteous than you or I. It is no wonder that God encourages us to seek her intercession when we desire something from Him. God is greatly affected by the prayers of holy people. The best example I can think of from Scripture is in Exodus 32:9-14. God wanted to destroy all of Israel after they worshipped the golden calf. Moses, whom God considered a righteous man, prayed that God would relent in His anger. Verse 14 records one of the most amazing responses in Scripture: "And God changed His mind and did not bring on His people the disaster He had threatened. " Later, in Exodus 33:11-19, God says that He listened to Moses' prayer because Moses was Gods friend; Moses pleased God; and God knew Moses by name. In modern terms, God answered Moses' prayer because God liked Moses very much.
Let me put it this way. The proud person claims that he doesn't need any of the intermediaries or vehicles God has established. He thinks that he is righteous enough to go directly to God without any support from others, without any sacraments, without the Church and her Communion of Saints. He thinks he is honoring God by bypassing intercessors, but in reality he is dishonoring God and puffing himself up. It's one thing to pray to God by yourself, but when you insist that you don't need intercessors to pray for you, then you don't really understand prayer at all, or what truly pleases God.
. Although God is powerful enough to do anything He desires, nevertheless, in His infinite wisdom, He has chosen to accomplish His works through select channels and intermediaries, and He will not change it. Anyone who wants to continue to have God's ear must recognize this principle.
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end of paraphrasing of website
Now that the need for intercessory prayer is addressed, let's reference your concern about the number of prayers.
Since we are still referring to the Rosary it is important to understand the original use of the Rosary. Another term that was used for the Rosary was
Our Lady's Psalter a reference to the Psalms.
[The following is from the following website:
http://net2.netacc.net/~mafg/cques33.htm
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As the recitation of the 150 Psalms, divided into fifties, was a favorite form of devotion for religious and learned persons, so too was it the practice to show devotion to the Blessed Virgin by the repetition of fifty, or a hundred, or a hundred and fifty salutations in her honor. In this way the practice of reciting fifty or more Ave Marias in honor of our blessed Lady became quite common. This occasioned the employment of some device in order to keep count of the prayers, and resulted in that chaplet which we now call the Rosary, a string of beads threaded with wire and divided into sections of ten, with one large bead for the Our Father between each section of ten small beads for the Hail Marys.
As repetition is apt to become a routine affair, the pious custom was introduced of associating a mystery of Our Lord's life with each decade of the Rosary, and meditating on that mystery while reciting the decade. The Rosary thus became known as Our Lady's Psalter, and was a favorite form of devotion among all classes.
In the days, before printing was invented, and when books were very few and outside the reach of the multitude, the Rosary was a particularly acceptable and helpful manner of prayer. As said before, it is an epitome of our religion, and besides helping those who are qualified mainly for vocal prayer, it also furnished those who practice mental prayer subject matter for sublimes contemplation. The Rosary is thus in a special manner the prayer of the people, both simple and learned. Those who find fault with its many repetitions fail to understand the wealth of devotion which it inspires in those who recite it properly, and the wonderful consolation and strength it gives to those who are faithful to it.
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End of website paraphrase
Additionally, I think we would generally all accept the fact that God is not confined by the restraints of time. He exists outside of time if you will. Since God exists outside of or without the confines of time whether 1 prayer is said now or 10 are said now or broken up a day apart just means that 10 prayer requests were heard. If you had asked Bob to pray for you it could be generally expected that Bob would continue to pray for you as the need continues. Just because we exist within the restraints of time doesn't mean that God heard these prayers a day apart as the restraint of time doesn't exist to God.
I hope this has helped.
God Bless
Stephen