I've heard many modern Baptists say that they believe in Total Depravity but also believe that every person is born with the ability to believe. But this is a contradiction, for Total Depravity is defined as the inborn inability to believe (spiritual death).
Total Depravity does NOT mean that a person is totally wicked, but it does mean that a person is spiritually dead, and must be spiritually resurrected to become God's child.
And keep the proper balance, it's important to remember that even in the spiritually dead condition, every person retains the Image of God, however so marred, but retained nonetheless. It is this retained Image that reminds the unregenerate that there is some kind of spirit world, something transcendent, something "out there"; yet because they do not like to retain God in their knowledge, they suppress the Image of God with their thoughts, and hatch out all sorts of foolish ideas about God, or gods, and in their anger against the truth, spend their lives trying to completely erase every vestige of that Image. They hate God because their basic knowledge of Him is a thorn, a nagging hindrance to their pursuit of evil.
This hatred of God can manifest itself either as an angry, virulent denial of Him, or as an indifferent coldness toward the things of God.
But in any case, no man can love God, except by the Holy Spirit dwelling in him.
Total Depravity man born as a natural sinful being. Totally and entirely alienated from God and void of Spitiual understanding, which is Spiritual separtation from God or Spiritual Death he is a depraved being. Depraved by definition "morally bad or debased; corrupt; perverted" that describes every human ever born except for Christ. Christ came and atoned for the Sins of all mankind scripture is clear on that so His atonement is unlimited, not limited to just the elect but until all.
When it comes right down to it there is only one reason anyone is sentenced to the Lake Of Fire and suffers the second death.
Rev. 20:
11 And I saw a great white throne, and him that sat on it, from whose face the earth and the heaven fled away; and there was found no place for them.
12 And I saw the dead, small and great, stand before God; and the books were opened: and another book was opened, which is the book of life: and the dead were judged out of those things which were written in the books, according to their works.
13 And the sea gave up the dead which were in it; and death and hell delivered up the dead which were in them: and they were judged every man according to their works.
14 And death and hell were cast into the lake of fire. This is the second death.
15 And whosoever was not found written in the book of life was cast into the lake of fire.
Verse 15 tells us whosoever was not found written in the book of life was cast into the lake of fire.
How does one not have their name written in the book of life? By not believing on the Lord Jesus Christ as their savior.
John 3:18 He that believeth on him is not condemned: but he that believeth not is condemned already, because he hath not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God.
Salvation is by Believing on Jesus Christ condemnation comes from not beleiving on the Lord Jesus Christ that what Christ said.
Total Depravity is seen here in that all are condenmed who have not believed, That is Total Depravity. Depraved again "morally bad or debased; corrupt; perverted" they are condenmed.
John 12:46 I am come a light into the world, that whosoever believeth on me should not abide in darkness.
47 And if any man hear my words, and believe not, I judge him not: for I came not to judge the world, but to save the world.
48 He that rejecteth me, and receiveth not my words, hath one that judgeth him: the word that I have spoken, the same shall judge him in the last day.
49 For I have not spoken of myself; but the Father which sent me, he gave me a commandment, what I should say, and what I should speak.
50 And I know that his commandment is life everlasting: whatsoever I speak therefore, even as the Father said unto me, so I speak.
Verse 48 He that rejeceth Me and receiveth not my words shall be judged in the last days. Total depraved in that they have rejected so great a salvation.
The issue of ones eternal home whether with God forever or seperated from Him forever comes down to rejection of Christ. The one who rejects Christ is condemened already. God didn't choose who would accept or reject God elected us based on what HE knew beforehand about the choice one would make to reject or receive Jesus Christ. Salvation is the free gift of God given to all who will accept Him, and God knows exactly who will and who will not accept Him. Based on that knowledge peter say we are Elect, 1 Peter 1: 2 Elect according to the foreknowledge of God the Father, through sanctification of the Spirit, unto obedience and sprinkling of the blood of Jesus Christ: Grace unto you, and peace, be multiplied.
Paul in Romans 8:29 For whom he did foreknow, he also did predestinate to be conformed to the image of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brethren.
30 Moreover whom he did predestinate, them he also called: and whom he called, them he also justified: and whom he justified, them he also glorified.
That God foreknew and therfore Predestinated us to be conformed to the image of His Son, to make us Christlike, to maker us righteous, justified, sanctified, regenerated to be SAVED.
It is all based on HIS Foreknowledge of us.