I usually refer to myself as a "tUp." My view of the total depravity of man is different than the Reformed viewpoint, as is my view of the perseverance of the saints, which I refer to as the "preservation of the saints" (or "eternal security"). The "U" is capitalized since I accept it fully, though I do hold strongly to the free will of the individual as well. If we could not will (choose) to come to Him, then why all of the appeals? They make no sense otherwise. Yet I am convinced that both are true at the same time. I do not imagine that anyone here has quite the same position as I do. A philosophical position which embraces "middle knowledge" as described by William Lane Craig has enabled me to logically defend this position - holding firmly to election and free will at the same time. (It's a position similar to that which Norman Geisler holds in Chosen But Free, yet IMO his philosophical handling leaves something to be desired at times.)
I find myself agreeing with so much that is said in the TULIP, but I always find something about the manner in which it is described that does not allow me to accept it fully.
I react most strongly to irresistible grace and limited atonement (I imagine the most common divergence).
And the way the perseverance of the saints is often expressed it sounds as if the person does not really have assurance of salvation.; there are so many conditions added. That assurance must be focused on Christ, and what he did, once for all, and not at all on anything we have done. Faith is merely realizing this truth. The way I often see the "P" described is a pretty shallow recognition of God's sovereignty in this area. He did it all. We do zip. No "buts" allowed. No "ifs" allowed. Even expressions like, "We are saved by faith alone but the faith that saves is not alone" are merely dodges, IMO, for someone who perhaps does not really believe in eternal security nor in salvation by faith alone. Either you believe in faith alone, or you do not. Either Christ did it all, on the cross, or there's something of value which we can add to His work. Ephesians 2:8, 9 says there is nothing about which we can boast.
As my moniker suggests, I do hold firmly to "faith alone." I chose this username because it's perhaps the single area that has been most abused these days, and is so misunderstood.
I am quite busy during the week, so I may not be able to respond very quickly.
FA