I understand your fear and concern but men are not God and his ways and means are so far from ours we think we have to help him. I believe with all the conviction and belief I have that God will save all his children. He will not lose a one and will draw all the tokens of his love and affection to him.
Where men get into trouble and confusion is when they try to determine who they are? Who are the elect of God? Am I one? The scripture state that we know we have passed from death unto life in that we love the brethren. That is my case I love Gods people and only desire good for them whereever they are.
We can not make a sheep only God can... but we can feed the ones that God had made. The scriptures state time and time again that he as the good shepard came into this world to die for those sheep the Father gave him and none else. I believe they will be born again somewhere between conception and death because they belong to Jesus.
The angel told Joseph that Mary was carrying the Christ child... Jesus who would save his people from there sins. He did and all through the race of mankind they have been born again being his blood bought children. I'm never worried that God will lose a one that his son died for... They will never fall nor perish by their own hand or another. No one can touch their eternal life not even the devil as it belongs to God.
Take thy rest child of God and see and believe in the power of your Salvation. Take these words daily as your guide and know you are secure in the Lord.
Romans 8:28] And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.
[29] For whom he did foreknow, he also did predestinate to be conformed to the image of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brethren.
[30] Moreover whom he did predestinate, them he also called: and whom he called, them he also justified: and whom he justified, them he also glorified.
[31] What shall we then say to these things? If God be for us, who can be against us?
[32] He that spared not his own Son, but delivered him up for us all, how shall he not with him also freely give us all things?
[33] Who shall lay any thing to the charge of God's elect? It is God that justifieth.
[34] Who is he that condemneth? It is Christ that died, yea rather, that is risen again, who is even at the right hand of God, who also maketh intercession for us.
[35] Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword?
[36] As it is written, For thy sake we are killed all the day long; we are accounted as sheep for the slaughter.
[37] Nay, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him that loved us.
[38] For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come,
[39] Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord... Brother Glen