John Are you saying you want justice?!!!! You have no concept of what you are saying! I am not a Calvinist but you clearly do not understand why man is lost, the consequences of that state, the sovereignty of God, The justice of God, and the mercy of God. In your analogy the child clearly does not deserve discipline. However in the case of man he does deserve eternal torment and no one deserves to even hear the gospel much less be saved by it. It is all mercy and God can decide who receives that mercy.
You are trying to equate from human logic, fairness with God's justice, and they are not compatible. In other words you are trying to judge God although you point to man and a doctrine.
God has the right to decide to save some and not save others and it has nothing to do with what is fair. If God was being fair then Jesus should not have went to the cross. How was it fair for Jesus to suffer for anyone else? However the cross is about mercy, not what is fair. Look at scripture and believe!
Romans 9:10-13 And not only [this]; but when Rebecca also had conceived by one, [even] by our father Isaac;
(For [the children] being not yet born, neither having done any good or evil, that the purpose of God according to election might stand, not of works, but of him that calleth
It was said unto her, The elder shall serve the younger.
As it is written, Jacob have I loved, but Esau have I hated.
V 15- For he saith to Moses, I will have mercy on whom I will have mercy, and I will have compassion on whom I will have compassion.
So then [it is] not of him that willeth, nor of him that runneth, but of God that sheweth mercy.
For the scripture saith unto Pharaoh, Even for this same purpose have I raised thee up, that I might shew my power in thee, and that my name might be declared throughout all the earth.
Therefore hath he mercy on whom he will [have mercy], and whom he will he hardeneth.
Thou wilt say then unto me, Why doth he yet find fault? For who hath resisted his will?
Nay but, O man, who art thou that repliest against God? Shall the thing formed say to him that formed [it], Why hast thou made me thus?