Emotions are God given, not wrong. If I were you, I would hate liquor with a Godly passion for what it did to your father.
My grandfather died of type II diabetes. Should I hate sugar for what it did to my grandfather?
Emotions are fine if they are not alone.
But you want facts. Here's one: about 10% of all who drink alcohol become alcoholics.
First of all, 10% is a small percentage. This would be more useful to you if it were 40 or 50%.
For example: 35% of Americans are obese. So let's prohibit McDonalds, Burger King, Outback Steakhouse and all very fattening foods and restaurants in America and let's preach against fat.
But that would make us almost as legalistic as preaching against all recreational usage of alcohol makes us.
Because a larger percentage of people who eat fattening foods become gluttons than people who drink alcoholic beverages become alcoholics.
Therefore, if you are drinking, you are playing Russian Roulette with your ministry and your family.
This is not a good argument. This argument would be laughed off the stage as it were if it were employed in any European country.
MILLIONS of ministers drink responsibly around this world without any threat whatsoever of becoming drunkards.
This is really only an argument that would be employed here because we are still in the dreadful wake of prohibitionism.
And your percentage is not applicable to social drinking Christians. I dare say that MOST of the people who become drunkards have no DESIRE to drink in moderation. They INTEND to get drunk regularly and often.
We're talking about people who drink responsibly.
What percentage of church going, missions supporting, tithing, bible believing, Christ loving Christians who drink alcohol become drunkards around this world?
And since MOST Christians around the world have no problem with social drinking there are HUNDREDS of millions to choose from.
I think most of us know instinctively that the percentage of these people who become drunkards is MINISCULE.
And think of the example you are leaving to your children, 10% of who, if they drink, will become alcoholics. This alone would keep me from drinking, never mind all other arguments, emotional, logical or Scriptural.
Once again the 10% is meaningless. Not only is it so small as not to cause much fear but it is not accurate as it applies to Christians who drink responsibly.
I should very much like to employ your statistic in support of MY argument.
Consider this. NINETY PERCENT of people who drink, including all the non-Christian people, including all the irresponsible teens-
NINETY PERCENT of them NEVER become drunkards!!
Astounding support for Christians having no fear to drink responsibly.
And you speak of Scripture. I have examined every single verse that speaks of alcohol over and over, often in the original. The fact is that a tiny minority of those verses can be used to justify alcohol consumption. And the ones against it are full of dire warnings:
This is blatantly wrong. Numerous passages support the drinking of alcohol. The church has known this for nearly two thousand years.
It was never a real issue until the advent of prohibitionism in this country a little better than a hundred years ago.
"Wine is a mocker, strong drink is raging: and whosoever is deceived thereby is not wise." (Prov. 20

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"Who hath woe? who hath sorrow? who hath contentions? who hath babbling? who hath wounds without cause? who hath redness of eyes? They that tarry long at the wine; they that go to seek mixed wine. Look not thou upon the wine when it is red, when it giveth his colour in the cup, when it moveth itself aright. At the last it biteth like a serpent, and stingeth like an adder. {an...: or, a cockatrice} Thine eyes shall behold strange women, and thine heart shall utter perverse things. Yea, thou shalt be as he that lieth down in the midst of the sea, or as he that lieth upon the top of a mast. {the midst...: Heb. the heart of the sea} They have stricken me, shalt thou say, and I was not sick; they have beaten me, and I felt it not: when shall I awake? I will seek it yet again." (Proverbs 23:29-35)
This is what convinced me that my legalistic stance on alcohol was wrong.
Take away the Proverbs, which are not by nature precepts but general truths with plenty of exceptions, and you have NO sensible scriptural argument.
The lazy man does not ALWAYS fall into poverty. HUNDREDS of MILLIONS have died rich.
The diligent man does not always become wealthy- billions have died poor.
Anyone who would take the proverbs to establish a doctrine needs to take another class in hermeneutics and understand the differences in interpreting different types of biblical literature.