You did not choose me, but I chose you AND appointed you so that you might go and bear fruit—fruit that will last—and so that whatever you ask in my name the Father will give you. First things first....we need a relationship with the Lord...thats salvation! Second is to use us as he sees fit...thus the "AND". He is talking to the ELEVEN of his sheep...minus the devil "Judas".
I agree we need a relationship with Jesus. But nobody can have a relationship by themselves. God cannot have a personal relationship with you unless you have a personal relationship with him.
Adam couldn't KNOW Eve without EVE KNOWING Adam. To think otherwise is ridiculous, but that is how Calvinists say foreknowledge works. They say God has a personal relationship with us before we believe. Absurd.
Look, you have scripture that SEEMS to contradict itself.
#1 God chose us in Christ before the foundation of the world (before time)
#2 Andronicus and Junia were in Christ before Paul (in time)
Now, both of these statements are from scripture, but they seem to contradict each other. How is it possible that these two seemingly contradictory scriptures can be absolutely true and not contradict each other?
The answer is FOREKNOWLEDGE. The scriptures say we are elect according to the foreknowledge of the Father. So, God's choosing or election is based on something he knew before it actually happened. That is the definition of foreknowledge.
What God foreknew is those persons who would believe in time and be "in Christ" in time as Paul was in Rom 16:7. God knew Paul would believe before Paul was born, and chose Paul. Foreknowledge is the answer.
Foreknowledge is the only possible way to reconcile that we were chosen in Christ before the foundation of the world, but no man is in Christ until he believes in time.
In addition, God could not have a personal relationship with us before we believed in time. You can't have a personal relationship with another person by yourself. That is nonsensical.
The scriptures show we enter into this personal relationship with God at the SAME TIME.
Gal 4:9 But
now, after that ye have known God,
or rather are known of God, how turn ye again to the weak and beggarly elements, whereunto ye desire again to be in bondage?
Paul doesn't say God knew us in a personal intimate way before time, he says we are known of God
NOW.
This makes sense, if you know someone in a personal and intimate way, they they also know you in a personal and intimate way at the same moment. It is impossible to be any other way.
So again, we seem to have a contradiction. If God "foreknew" us before time, how could he know us in time as Gal 4:9 shows?
Again, the answer is FOREKNOWLEDGE. God in his foreknowledge could foresee this personal relationship in time and chose us.
This is not complicated, and it makes perfects sense. Calvinists do not like it, because it refutes their doctrine. But it is what scripture shows.