The sinners prayer, God loves You, easy-believism, non-Lordship salvation and it goes on. It's frustrating sometimes and Lord willing one day the wife will be open to attending the Reformed Baptist Church or the Calvinist Bible church down the road and becoming members.
Do they teach the sinner's prayer saves you or do they trust in the shed blood of Jesus Christ?
God does love you. It is the prevailing theme of the Bible.
It is easy to believe when led by the Holy Spirit.
Any human demand of performance on our part to secure and hold the salvation of the elect negates the Good in Good News.
You have a few choices:
1. Put your foot down and tell the Mrs you are the spiritual leader in your household and you will attend the church of your choosing.
~or~
2. Open your heart and mind and receive the instruction from the pastor of the church you are attending.
God instructed Israel not to stiffen their necks as their forefathers did. But rather yield, enter and serve the Lord. Their stubbornness led to disobedience. You've been fairly stiff necked about this church since you first shadowed the door.
Try this. Spend a deliberate amount of time in prayer specifically concerning why you are attending this church in this season. Ask God to open your heart and mind to hear what the Spirit would say to the church when you are there.
Give it a couple of months and let us know how it is going. I'm willing to wager you will be telling us how much the pastor has grown in the two months you've been praying.