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Give me grace for my church leadership

InTheLight

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You sir need quality time with a donkey!!

Has anyone else noticed that Evan has escalated the size of the animals that people need to get cozy with? Rabbits, then kangaroos, now donkeys. Soon it will be hippopotamuses, elephants, whales, and finally brontosauruses.
 

blessedwife318

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The sinners prayer, God loves You, easy-believism, non-Lordship salvation and it goes on. It's frustrating sometimes and Lord willing one day the wife will be open to attending the Reformed Baptist Church or the Calvinist Bible church down the road and becoming members.

Publically criticizing your wife is not loving her as Christ loves the church. When you are not fulfilling your role as husband, (as you are neither showing love to her, nor being the spiritual leader in the home) you have no right to criticize her for not fulfilling her role. Focus on what you need to do to make your marriage work.

Of course the bigger questions is why did you marry her, knowing that you disagree with what she believes, and the church she goes to? If you had listened to wise counsel you could have avoided this.

So you have 2 choice now, you either submit to the church you are in and stop gossipping about the church publicly, stop trying to confront the pastor when you are outside of Biblical guidelines to do so. (1 Tim 5:17-19 17 Let the elders who rule well be considered worthy of double honor, especially those who labor in preaching and teaching. 18 For the Scripture says, “You shall not muzzle an ox when it treads out the grain,” and, “The laborer deserves his wages.” 19 Do not admit a charge against an elder except on the evidence of two or three witnesses) and stop publicly bad mouthing your wife, Or you can become the spiritual leader (which also will require you to stop publicly bad mouthing your wife) and lead your wife to a church more of your liking.

Also I agree that Padre gave you some good advice, and I'm a Calvinist. His advice had nothing to do with the Calvinist/ Arminian debate.
 

PreachTony

Active Member
God instructed Israel not to stiffen their necks as their forefathers did. But rather yield, enter and serve the Lord. Their stubbornness led to disobedience. You've been fairly stiff necked about this church since you first shadowed the door.

Try this. Spend a deliberate amount of time in prayer specifically concerning why you are attending this church in this season. Ask God to open your heart and mind to hear what the Spirit would say to the church when you are there.

Give it a couple of months and let us know how it is going. I'm willing to wager you will be telling us how much the pastor has grown in the two months you've been praying.

Well, Evan, are you going to accept the advice offered you? Padre's advice is very sound, whether you agree with his soteriology or not.
 

Rolfe

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Has anyone else noticed that Evan has escalated the size of the animals that people need to get cozy with? Rabbits, then kangaroos, now donkeys. Soon it will be hippopotamuses, elephants, whales, and finally brontosauruses.

I suspect that the use of the donkey is his way of calling someone a jackass.
 

JonC

Moderator
Moderator
Jordan told me once that most here are not very edifying. I would agree with that statement.

Edification is as much, if not more, a personal and internal issue. I have learned much from this forum. I have also learned from and about you. Biblical edification is a conscious decision to take what is said, weigh it with scripture, and apply what rings true. If you cannot find much edifying on this thread, then I think perhaps you need to look at yourself and not others.
 

blessedwife318

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Jordan told me once that most here are not very edifying. I would agree with that statement.

It seems that you think that about most boards you are on. You have come back here after trying out other boards (and then getting banned from them)to complain how not edifying there were. What is the common denominator with all those boards? I'll give you hint its not their edification or lack there of.
 

Servent

Member
You sure your not smokin some of that wacky weed there in Co. You were give sound advice, you would do well to listen.
 

PreachTony

Active Member
Oh for the love of all. I will read Padres post again for I may have missed something.

It saddens me that you are so hesitant and reluctant to read over sound advice. Remember, Evan, edification does not simply mean positive feedback or a pat on the back for doing a good job.
 

Don

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What is "SIKE"? Did he mean "psych"? Or is that a new slang term I'm unfamiliar with?
 
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