Steven, you were always the seed. You were never the soil. Go re-read the parable.
God sows the seed. (Let that sink in.) God throws the seed on different soils (Is his toss accidental or haphazard?) The seed may lie dormant in good soil for a long time. God determines its growth.
Thank you for clarifying.
Humans certainly can obey or disobey rules. They do so for selfish reasons, based on what they think will benefit them the most.
Humans will not repent of this selfishness and submit willingly to the Supremacy of God. God must break their will and cause a man to submit. When God chooses to do this, a man cannot stop God from doing so.
Total inability to do righteous acts is not found in scripture. God isn't breaking me unless I'm determined to be evil and obstinate. In my case I spent three years in torment losing all faith in God and Jesus as a moderate Baptist. This eventually caused me to choose faith in the biblical Jesus and set out on a new and true journey as a pilgrim.